On March 27th the new moon appeared in the sign of Aries. A new moon is the phase of the moon when it passes between the earth and the sun. It is invisible in the sky although it may be seen at sunset as a very thin crescent. New moon energy invites us to set an intention. What that means is that we focus on something we would like to see happen in our lives. It can be personal or material. This new moon is in the fire sign of Aries. Aries asks us to go full steam ahead, act before thinking but because the planet Venus is in retrograde (retrograde means that the planet when observed from the earth appears to be moving backwards) we are being beckoned to proceed with caution. Rather than making bold moves we are encouraged to look inward and set an intention that facilitates our personal growth. While Venus is usually all about I love you with it being in Aries it is all about I love me. With that in mind focus on self-love, self-approval, and self-confidence.
Is there a project or business you have been wanting to start? This would be a good time to get the ball rolling but you have to be sure that you are approaching it from a place of self-confidence. So if you are a bit timid use this Aries Warrior energy to amp your self confidence. Mirror work is a great tool to use. Here is how it works:
Standing in front of a mirror make eye contact with yourself and say “I approve of myself.” repeat this at least 3 times. Continue this practice until you feel what you are saying. The goal is to start with self approval and move on until you can easily make eye contact with yourself and say “I love you.” Louise Hay is the creator of this technique and has great books out on doing mirror work.
Tuesday, March 27th at 7:00 PM EDT on The Night Shift we will be discussing this topic as well as taking your questions for some mini readings. I invite you to tune in and if you like join our interactive Facebook chatroom: https://www.facebook.com/groups/183716975330317/
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Sometimes in life someone does something that we may feel is unforgivable. We get hurt, angry, resentful, and at times it can be all consuming. More and more though it is being found that these feelings negatively impact our health:
“There is an enormous physical burden to being hurt and disappointed,” says Karen Swartz, M.D., director of the Mood Disorders Adult Consultation Clinic at The Johns Hopkins Hospital. Chronic anger puts you into a fight-or-flight mode, which results in numerous changes in heart rate, blood pressure and immune response. Those changes, then, increase the risk of depression, heart disease and diabetes, among other conditions. Forgiveness, however, calms stress levels, leading to improved health.”
Forgiving can be a real challenge and it is important to remember that when we forgive someone we are not excusing the act but instead are releasing ourselves from it. In other words, we do this for us not for the other person. One thing I want to mention is that time is a healer. It may be too much to attempt forgiveness until some time has passed. Allow yourself to feel all your feelings related to the incident and act accordingly. If you are angry express it, if you are upset shed your tears, give yourself permission to go through it all.
One thing I have suggested to my clients is to write the person who wronged them a letter. Put everything in that letter that they are feeling and use whatever language makes the most sense to them. Once it’s done set it aside. After a length of time that is appropriate for them I tell them to read it. Should you send it? Should the language be toned down? How do you feel now? Based on the answers to those questions they determine if it should be sent. Sometimes if it is too strong I suggest creating a ceremony where the letter is burned allowing all their anger literally go up in smoke.
Here are a few suggestions that may assist in forgiveness:
- Decide that you want to forgive. A positive first step.
- Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Is there anything that you can think of that may have contributed to the way this person acted? Not justifying it but understanding it
- Speak your truth about the situation. Talk to someone you can trust and who’s advice you respect. Get another viewpoint.
As you forgive take a look at the relationship. It may be that you can forgive and not have this person in your life any more. If that is not possible or practical being honest with yourself is key. Are you expecting an apology? If you don’t see one coming than accept that and realize this has more to do with them than you. Freedom is key here and to get your wings, forgive and fly!
On Tuesday, March 14th, 7:00 PM Forgiveness will be the topic on The Night Shift. I invite you to join me.
In the hustle bustle of our lives we sometimes get so caught up in taking care of everyone else we forget to take care of ourselves. Giving is great but if we don’t take some time to replace all the energy we are doling out we can get depleted and just plain exhausted. Self nurturing doesn’t always come naturally to us so I am going to offer a few suggestions.
- Buy yourself a fresh bunch of spring flowers. Every time you look at them take a deep breath and appreciate their beauty knowing you deserve this.
- Schedule a spa treatment like a massage, pedicure or manicure.
- Take a leisurely stroll outdoors. Survey your 5 senses and notice every little detail.
- Spend some time with a good book or magazine.
- Try a hobby you have been wanting to do but putting off because you just don’t have the time.
- Go to a movie you want to see even if it means you go with yourself.
These are just a few ideas and I will have more on The Night Shift, Tuesday, 3/7, 7:00 PM EST. To pamper you even more I am going to get in as many mini readings as possible.
Join me because after all you deserve it!