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My 5 Stages of Grief


In December of 2013 my husband, Dennis Dintino, was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. We were blessed with a year of remission and another 2 years of ups and downs. On October 6th his battle was over and he crossed over. I met this man when I was 15 years old and we have been married for 45 years. He was my best friend. Now don’t get me wrong we had our ups and downs. He was a workaholic and all I wanted was a 9-5 guy but through the years we adjusted and got comfortable with who we both were. Not an easy journey but one we finally got the hang of.

As I studied the five stages of grief to talk to you about I realized that I have been going through these stages since my husband’s diagnosis. The five stages of grief concept, also known as the Kubler-Ross Model, is based on the work of psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross.  She published her book, “On Death and Dying,” in 1969 and based her findings on dealing with the terminally ill.

The first stage is denial. I realize that with my husband’s original diagnosis I pretended it was not true. When he qualified for genetic treatment and went into remission it was easy to deny his diagnosis.  I certainly prayed for that miracle and we were able to go to Italy and take a trip that he had always wanted to take. Discovering his roots and the town his grandfather was born in. Denial was my security blanket.

Second is anger and I was ANGRY! My daughter had successfully battled leukemia but in the process because she was 8 months pregnant we lost our baby grandson. Wasn’t her battle with this disease and that loss enough? Hadn’t my family been through enough? This was not fair I would say as I shook my fist to the heavens.

The next stage is bargaining and I can kind of relate to that. I created a meditation for him that focused on perfect health. I thought about the if onlys. He visited his doctor regularly but he had not had a chest X-Ray. He had given up smoking years ago but should I have pushed him to do that since one of his doctors had recommended it? Would it have made a difference? I really never got into bargaining with God and I never looked at this as any kind of punishment.

Depression follows and boy that speaks to me. After the first year, the cancer cells outsmarted the genetic drug and it was no longer working. My husband had to get chemo again and then a new drug was available. This time there was no denial. I started asking the hard questions outside of my husband’s earshot because he was never going to give in to this. I shed so many tears and then once again he began to feel better. We had dodged another bullet. However in May of this year symptoms began to appear that made it evident the new pill was no longer working. My husband stayed brave. We never discussed his passing. He just would not talk about it. He owned two successful businesses and fought his battle privately. Very few people outside the family knew of his condition. He was a Leo in every sense of the word. As I watched him getting thinner and thinner putting on a brave front for him, I was drowning. I could not cope with his suffering. I did my best but there were days I could not get past being depressed.

Lastly is acceptance and I feel I am in that stage now. The loss for me is heart breaking but I am relieved to see his suffering end. It tore me apart to watch and although he never once complained I could see in every way the toll this was taking on him. I wanted two things for him and that was the he would always be given hope and not be afraid. We were trying one more treatment when he passed and I truly believe till the very end he felt he would beat it. In the hospital room after his death I knew that the shell that was there was not my beloved husband but was merely biology. His soul had moved on leaving the pain behind and he was finally at peace.

This week on The Night Shift, 10/18, 7:00 PM Eastern, 4:00 PM Pacific we will talk about dealing with grief. I have a few stories to tell about signs I have gotten from my husband and my journey thus far. I will be taking your questions in the chat room for some mini readings. I am really looking forward to connecting with you.

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WomanUp Conference Buffalo, NY


Buffalo, are you ready to Woman Up?
This week on The Night Shift with Susan Dintino, Tuesday, 9/20 7:00 PM Eastern time  we will hear about this amazing conference and all the ways my special guest Joan Graci is working towards women of all ages finding passion and power in the workplace. Ms. Graci is the President of  APA Solutions, the presenting sponsor of WomanUp, and explains why she is dedicated to bringing this event to Western New York on Tuesday, September 27, at the Buffalo Transportation Pierce-Arrow Museum. WomanUp will feature a live interview with one of WNY’s most successful and impactful woman, Kim Pegula.
Woman Up focuses on educating and motivating women, working and nonworking, of all generations. Our conference is inclusive of all women that are interested in universal insights that empower in the areas of professional development, business relationships, and health and wellness.
“Western New York has some of the most prominent women and organizations, but the reality is we don’t have an event in the area that brings all women’s initiatives together under one roof. With the overarching goal of empowerment, we look to unite, share best practices, develop skills, and Woman Up.” – Joan Graci
I am proud to say I will be taking part in this event teaching a workshop on Reducing Stress Through Meditation

Ms. Graci will also talk about her non profit organization Be Your Own Hero which helps students decide what the best career path may be for them. A career coach with a zest for everything she does, Ms. Graci will have tips that will assist you in your job journey. If you have wondered about changing careers, finding a job full of purpose that makes you literally want to jump out of bed and go to work tune in!

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Mercury in Retrograde…Full Moon Eclipse…Wow!


Mercury went retrograde on August 30th and will remain so until September 22nd. What exactly does this mean? Literally Mercury is not moving backwards but because it is the planet closest to the sun’s its orbit is much shorter than the Earth’s. About 3 or 4 times a year Mercury speeds up and passes the Earth. If you were star gazing it would appear that this planet is moving backwards and ancient astrologers thought just that so coined it as Mercury retrograde. Knowing exactly what it means is not as important as knowing what it means for you. There is a belief that the planets and their movements effect us here on Earth. “As above so below” so to speak. When things are moving a bit different in space it causes us to feel different here on Earth. Consequently you will often here people bemoan the fact of Mercury being in retrograde and it can be blamed on a multitude of things such as electrical disturbances, problems with miscommunication and basically wreaking havoc on areas of our lives where we count on stability. This Mercury retrograde is in Virgo so it is calling on us to slow down and inspect our lives. What has worked in the past we should consider keeping? What has not they we should consider losing? Do we hear a calling of the soul that is guiding us to try something new whether in where we live, what we do, or the people we are with?

In addition on September 16th we have a full moon, known as the Harvest Moon, in the astrological sign Pisces. Pisces is all about our intuition and relying on our abilities that are outside our physical senses. A water sign, Pisces reminds us to be fluid and keep our options open. It also will be a lunar eclipse when the Moon passes directly behind the Earth into its shadow. This eclipse will be focusing on the truth. Whatever you have been avoiding may be revealed in this energy. You may feel angry, frustrated, or just out of sorts but all this is for the good if you recognize what this is trying to tell you. It is all about coming out of the shadow and facing the light.

What can we do to get through this time? Meditation for one. A great time to sit in quiet contemplation. If you are new to meditation try a guided meditation CD.  Take a walk outside at night and allow yourself to be lightened by the full moon. Journaling is a powerful tool as well. If you find yourself feeling angry or frustrated put pen to paper and ask yourself Why am I angry? then without censoring just answer the question. Once you have done this take a moment to sit with it. Is there a truth here you have not acknowledged before? Is there a correction to made? Something to release?

We will be talking about all this on The Night Shift, Tuesday, 9/13 at 7:00 PM Eastern time. I also will be doing mini readings in the chat room to see if we can get some insights that way. Kick off these astrological events with me!

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