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Forgiveness..The Ultimate Freedom

Sometimes in life someone does something that we may feel is unforgivable. We get hurt, angry, resentful, and at times it can be all consuming. More and more though it is being found that these feelings negatively impact our health:
“There is an enormous physical burden to being hurt and disappointed,” says Karen Swartz, M.D., director of the Mood Disorders Adult Consultation Clinic at The Johns Hopkins Hospital. Chronic anger puts you into a fight-or-flight mode, which results in numerous changes in heart rate, blood pressure and immune response. Those changes, then, increase the risk of depression, heart disease and diabetes, among other conditions. Forgiveness, however, calms stress levels, leading to improved health.”

Forgiving can be a real challenge and it is important to remember that when we forgive someone we are not excusing the act but instead are releasing ourselves from it. In other words, we do this for us not for the other person.  One thing I want to mention is that time is a healer. It may be too much to attempt forgiveness until some time has passed. Allow yourself to feel all your feelings related to the incident and act accordingly. If you are angry express it, if you are upset shed your tears, give yourself permission to go through it all.

One thing I have suggested to my clients is to write the person who wronged them a letter. Put everything in that letter that they are feeling and use whatever language makes the most sense to them. Once it’s done set it aside. After a length of time that is appropriate for them I tell them to read it. Should you send it? Should the language be toned down? How do you feel now? Based on the answers to those questions they determine if it should be sent. Sometimes if it is too strong I suggest creating a ceremony where the letter is burned allowing all their anger literally go up in smoke.

Here are a few suggestions that may assist in forgiveness:

  • Decide that you want to forgive. A positive first step.
  • Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Is there anything that you can think of that may have contributed to the way this person acted? Not justifying it but understanding it
  • Speak your truth about the situation. Talk to someone you can trust and who’s advice you respect. Get another viewpoint.

As you forgive take a look at the relationship. It may be that you can forgive and not have this person in your life any more. If that is not possible or practical being honest with yourself is key. Are you expecting an apology? If you don’t see one coming than accept that and realize this has more to do with them than you. Freedom is key here and to get your wings, forgive and fly!

On Tuesday, March 14th, 7:00 PM Forgiveness will be the topic on The Night Shift.  I invite you to join me.

What Have You Done for Yourself Lately?

In the hustle bustle of our lives we sometimes get so caught up in taking care of everyone else we forget to take care of ourselves. Giving is great but if we don’t take some time to replace all the energy we are doling out we can get depleted and just plain exhausted.  Self nurturing doesn’t always come naturally to us so I am going to offer a few suggestions.

  • Buy yourself a fresh bunch of spring flowers. Every time you look at them take a deep breath and appreciate their beauty knowing you deserve this.
  • Schedule a spa treatment like a massage, pedicure or manicure.
  • Take a leisurely stroll outdoors. Survey your 5 senses and notice every little detail.
  • Spend some time with a good book or magazine.
  • Try a hobby you have been wanting to do but putting off because you just don’t have the time.
  • Go to a movie you want to see even if it means you go with yourself.

These are just a few ideas and I will have more on The Night Shift, Tuesday, 3/7, 7:00 PM EST. To pamper you even more I am going to get in as many mini readings as possible.

Join me because after all you deserve it!

New Moon in Pisces

You may wonder why I make a big deal about the New Moon and Full Moon phases. It is because I feel it is important to honor these celestial events that will enhance our lives in some manner. On February 26th we will have a New Moon which means that as you look up into the sky there is no visible moon present. It falls in the astrological sign of Pisces so it is all about water and being fluid and flexible.

Piscean New Moons call for self-exploration an opportunity to delve inward and see what makes us tick. A good time to examine the beliefs we hold dear. Which ones are serving us? Which ones should we let go? This can be an emotional experience but it doesn’t have to be painful. Looking into the self can be enlightening and motivating giving us the opportunity to forge ahead with things we may be procrastinating on.

Sleep may be a bit illusive as your creativity is kicked into high gear. It would be a good idea to keep a journal by your bed and if you wake in the wee hours of the morning with a great idea write it down. Also take this opportunity to keep track of your dreams. These too could give  you significant insights into what is going on.

As Marianne Williamson said:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” This Piscean New Moon reminds us that there is no more playing small in our lives.

To max this energy even further there is an Annular Solar Eclipse. An Annular Solar Eclipse is where the Sun appears behind the Moon as a bright ring of light called an annulus looking like a ring of fire around the dark disk of the Moon. Observing from the Earth, the moon will cover approximately 99% of the Sun.

We have all the players then converging to create quite a burst of energy. The Moon which represents our past, unconscious, emotions, and feelings.  The Sun which connects with our identity, self-esteem, creative expression and Pisces which is connected with water, our psychic abilities, our dreams and our creativity.

On February 21 on The Night Shift at 7:00 PM  we will explore all of this and what it means to you. How can you best utilize this energy? What are some tools you can use to harness it? Mini readings throughout the show as well.

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