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DIFFUSING FAMILY TENSION

I’ve spent over twenty years working with families as a spiritual life coach. Many of my clients divulge painful or embarrassing situations that their families are struggling with, believing there must be something wrong with them since other families they know appear so well adjusted. I assure them that even in the most seemingly normal families there are often veiled matters of concern. Dealing with tension and strife in our family units can present unique challenges. In our social environments we can more easily disengage or remove ourselves from problematic circumstances. But when your sister marries someone who defines the very essence of drama, exiting may not be a logical option. Is there a way families can reduce the amount to tension between them? While we may not be able to completely eliminate it, we most certainly can take measures to make family interactions more enjoyable.

1. Always be polite and cordial to every family member, even those you may not be particularly fond of. Avoid ignoring or showing favoritism as it can easily lead to hurt feelings, jealousy, and resentment.
2. In disagreements, refrain from using the terms right and wrong. Leave your ego out of all discussions and respect each person’s position.
3. Don’t second guess other people’s motives for what they are saying or doing. If you are uncertain, either give them the benefit of the doubt or ask questions to gain further clarity.
4. Avoid engaging in hot topics. If someone initiates a discussion known to evoke intense emotions, redirect the conversation to a more neutral issue. Likewise in regard to fuel-injected statements, those comments that are designed to anger the other person: “You Always…”, “I Never…”, “You have a problem!” “ANY” Words: Always, Never, and You can be toxic in conversations. Ban them from your vocabulary.
5. If you have an issue with a particular family member discuss it with them in private. Do not invite others into the conversation. Respect their privacy. Remember: too many cooks spoil the soup. Be respectful by refusing to gossip or speak unkindly about the individual with others as well.
6. Never interfere with the relationship between one family member and another. If you do not care for someone, at the very least be tolerant of others who still do.
7. Leave the past where it belongs. Do not dredge up old issues or reopen past wounds. Address current issues only.
8. If you find yourself becoming upset with someone, stop and discern what is really troubling you. Very often it has nothing to do with the other party. They may be triggering an unresolved issue within you that needs healing.
9. Whenever possible and appropriate, use humor as a way of diffusing tension. -appropriate being the optimum word.
10. In any situation, we have the option of being an instigator, participant, or healer of family tension. Always choose the latter. Be the voice of reason, the peacemaker, the example for others to follow. And if for some reason you cannot contribute to the well-being of your family then at the very least do not contaminate it further.

Family members may not always cooperate with your efforts. But remember: you are not here for their approval, you are here to please God. In the words of St. Francis: “Lord make me an instrument of your peace.”

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The 15 Minute Conflict Resolution Solution

I abhor arguing. It’s a waste of precious time and energy and robs me of my serenity. Conflict, however, is horse of another color. Conflict occurs daily in each of our lives. It simply means that there is a disagreement, a difference of opinion. My husband and I engage in disputes on a regular basis yet interestingly enough have had fewer than five arguments in our eighteen year marriage. Unlike popular opinion, conflict is not synonymous with fighting. I’m willing to engage in a discussion but will never allow it to escalate into a battle. Let me explain by first clarifying the words I’m referring to: conflict is two opposing forces; to argue is to give reason for or against something, to prove or try to prove (this often entails the need to be right); fighting seeks to gain authority over another by way of struggle, a hostile encounter between two parties.

Let’s take a closer look at each. Two people, each with a different set of beliefs, preferences, needs, or goals enter into a conversation: a wife dreams of traveling around the world while her husband wants to settle down and have a family – conflict. One person is raised Christian, another Jew, and yet another with no beliefs in a higher power form a friendship and share their beliefs – conflict. Conflict even occurs in nature: a sun shower, salmon swimming upstream to lay their eggs, a collision of warm air with a cold front. The difference between human discord and natural divergence is that in nature there is no ego to complicate matters. Humans have an inherent need to be right, to win in order to feel good about themselves, to raise their sense of worth. Nature on the other hand simply allows differences to occur and works within the context of its ever changing circumstances. Yet when two creatures of the human species disagree ego wages war on the so-called offending party, prepared to prove it’s superiority and claim victory over its opponent. What begins as a simple disagreement quickly rivals The War of the Roses.

But there is an alternative. Many disagreements can be readily resolved in a matter of minutes by adhering to the following fifteen minute protocol:
1. Allow each party sixty seconds (that’s right: one measly minute) to state their position. This prevents the dialogue from becoming contaminated with blame and excuses or veering off track. Total time: two minutes.
2. Each party is allotted thirty seconds to state their desired outcome, what they would ideally like to see happen. Total time: one minute.
3. Both parties must contribute a minimum of three possible solutions. This allows for six potentially workable resolutions. Each person is permitted three minutes. Total time: six minutes.
4. Together, extract the best components of each suggestion and determine which elements can successfully be incorporated into the final solution. Tweak if necessary. Total time: six minutes.

Approximately 13% of the total time focuses on the challenging situation leaving a whopping 87% to finding a workable and mutually satisfying remedy.
The advantages of a Fifteen Minute Conflict Resolution Solution is that by moving the process along quickly one dramatically reduces the chances that the situation will escalate into an argument or fight. The mind must remain focused on finding a solution rather than concerning itself with being right. Time is of the essence and one cannot afford to become distracted by ego. Putting this issue to rest allows both sides to move forward to the more enjoyable aspects of living. Short and sweet = complete. Pretty cool, don’t you agree?

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This just announced!!! @WelcometoRockville will be returning on April 29 – 30, 2017!!!

Welcome To Rockville 2017

This just announced!!! @WelcometoRockville will be returning on April 29 – 30, 2017!!! Headlined by @Soundgarden, @DefLeppard, @aperfectcircle, @theoffspring, and many MORE! Head over to http://welcometorockvillefestival.com to join the community and for more information! Tickets on-sale TOMORROW (12/6) at noon EST! Head here for tickets http://fgtix.to/2fNVrbj #WelcomeToRockville #AllThingsRock #DannyWimmerPresents #pipemanradio #wcyradio #fuelthescene #theadventuresofpipeman #pipemanradiotour

 

Date: December 5, 2016

MONSTER ENERGY WELCOME TO ROCKVILLE 2017

BAND LINEUP ANNOUNCED

 

SOUNDGARDEN, DEF LEPPARD AND A PERFECT CIRCLE

 LEAD MUSIC LINEUP FOR FLORIDA’S BIGGEST ROCK EXPERIENCE

ALSO FEATURING PERFORMANCES FROM THE OFFSPRING, MASTODON,

CHEVELLE, SEETHER, PAPA ROACH AND MANY MORE

APRIL 29 & 30 AT METROPOLITAN PARK IN JACKSONVILLE, FL

 

DISCOUNTED EARLY BIRD TICKETS, AS WELL AS VIP AND HOTEL PACKAGES

ON SALE TUESDAY, DECEMBER 6

 

The initial band lineup has been announced for Monster Energy Welcome To Rockville, April 29 and 30, 2017 at Jacksonville, Florida‘s scenic Metropolitan Park along the St. Johns River. Rock legends Soundgarden (Saturday headliner), Def Leppard (Sunday headliner), and A Perfect Circle lead the music lineup for Florida’s biggest rock experience, which features over 40 bands on three stages, including a tremendous list of talent with The Offspring, Mastodon, Chevelle, Seether, Papa Roach and many more.

Check out the official Monster Energy Welcome To Rockville video announcement here: https://youtu.be/VA-bbpNty5s.

Specially priced tickets as well as hotel and VIP packages for Monster Energy Welcome To Rockville will be available starting Tuesday, December 6 at Noon EST at http://fgtix.to/2fNVrbj.

The current music lineup for Monster Energy Welcome To Rockville is as follows: Soundgarden, Def Leppard, A Perfect Circle, The Offspring, Mastodon, Chevelle, Seether, Papa Roach, Three Days Grace, Pierce The Veil, Coheed and Cambria, Alter Bridge, The Pretty Reckless, Amon Amarth, Eagles of Death Metal, Highly Suspect, Dillinger Escape Plan, In Flames, Gojira, In This Moment, Motionless In White, All That Remains, Nothing More, Rival Sons, Beartooth, Every Time I Die, Attila, Starset, Dinosaur Pile-Up, I Prevail, Kyng, Crobot, Volumes, Sylar, Fire From the Gods, As Lions, Badflower, Goodbye June, Frank Carter & The Rattlesnakes, Cover Your Tracks, The Charm The Fury, and more to be announced.

Here are comments from some of the festival artists:

“Without a doubt we can’t wait to throw down with our rock and metal fans at Welcome To Rockville fest! Ever since the beginning for us, we’ve seen how absolutely amazing and rabid you guys can get in Florida! You keep us on our toes; hell yes, we’ll see you there!” — Pete Loeffler / Chevelle

“This is Vic from Pierce The Veil and we can’t wait to hit the stage and kick off the World’s Loudest Month in Florida at Rockville festival! See you all at the show!” – Vic Fuentes / Pierce The Veil

“We’re stoked to be kicking off the World’s Loudest Month at Rockville with Alter Bridge. It’s gonna be epic so don’t miss it!” — Myles Kennedy / Alter Bridge

Welcome To Rockville has grown from a single day event into Florida’s biggest rock festival experience of the year. The 2017 lineup is a celebration of all things rock, with legends like Soundgarden, Def Leppard, A Perfect Circle and The Offspring balanced with the best of what’s current and hot in rock and metal culture. This is a greatest hits celebration for all ages,” says founder and producer Danny Wimmer of Danny Wimmer Presents.

Monster Energy Welcome To Rockville kicks off the annual World’s Loudest Month festival series and will also feature a variety of unique activations and secondary entertainment options including Jack Daniel’s Whiskey Row, The Music Experience, FYE Fan Experience, Monster Energy Experience, along with incredible food and beverage offerings and other onsite experiences.

Specially priced tickets as well hotel and VIP packages will be available starting Tuesday, December 6 at Noon EST. Fans are encouraged to buy early and save. Discounted online hotel rates are also available through Curadora. Visit http://fgtix.to/2fNVrbj for details.

 

Initial ticket prices will be as follows:

Weekend General Admission: starting at $89.50 + fees

Weekend VIP: starting at $250.00 + fees

Single Day General Admission: starting at $70.00 + fees

Single Day VIP: $140.00 + fees

VIP tickets include: a VIP entrance to venue; access to VIP lounge area featuring dedicated bar, beverage and food service; viewing of main stages; seated area with shade for dining; private restroom facilities; and a VIP guest laminate.

As in the past, General Admission ticket discounts will also be available for active military through Monster Energy Welcome To Rockville partner GovX (www.govx.com).

Monster Energy Welcome To Rockville is Florida’s biggest rock experience. Tickets have sold out for the past three years, and there were over 50,000 in attendance at the 2015 and 2016 events.

Monster Energy Welcome To Rockville is fueled by Monster Energy. Additional 2017 sponsors include: Bud Light, Jack Daniel’s, The Music Experience, Zippo, MetroPCS, and more to be announced.

Monster Energy Welcome To Rockville is produced by Danny Wimmer Presents, a producer of some of the biggest rock festivals in America, including Rock On The Range, Monster Energy AFTERSHOCK, Monster Energy Fort Rock, Monster Energy Carolina Rebellion, LOUDER THAN LIFE, Northern Invasion, Chicago Open Air, Monster Energy Rock Allegiance, and more.

For more information on Monster Energy Welcome To Rockville, visit:

Website: www.WelcomeToRockvilleFestival.com

Facebook: www.facebook.com/welcometorockville

Twitter: @RockvilleFest

Instagram: @welcometorockville

 

About Danny Wimmer Presents: Since 1993, music industry veteran Danny Wimmer has been producing concerts and festivals, both large and small. In 2011, he formed Danny Wimmer Presents, which now produces several of the largest rock and alternative festivals in the U.S. By combining A-list talent with local cuisine and culture, DWP has become recognized within the industry for delivering the highest-quality entertainment experiences to fans, artists, sponsors, partners and host cities. DWP creates memorable and all-encompassing festival experiences, leaving both consumers and partners with lasting and meaningful impressions. With 580,000 fans attending all DWP festivals in 2015, and 10 billion media impressions, DWP will continue to add new music festivals to its already stellar portfolio, which includes Rock On The Range, Monster Energy Aftershock Festival, Monster Energy Welcome To Rockville, Monster Energy Carolina Rebellion, Louder Than Life, Chicago Open Air and Monster Energy Rock Allegiance, among others. www.DannyWimmerPresents.com

About Southern Hospitality Concessions: Southern Hospitality Concessions is a premier concession company that specializes in food and beverage service for outdoor music festivals.  Incorporating a mix of localized cuisine and traditional selections, the SoHo experience is a unique blend of flavors. SoHo designs, fulfills and manages a custom concessions solution for each event. SoHo was founded on the principle that the unique experience of each outdoor event requires a distinct concession approach that is consistent with the vision of the event organizer. SoHo understands that at a live event, food and beverage is not just a service, it is part of the guest’s overall experience.

www.SoHoConcessions.com

About Metropolitan Park: Metropolitan Park offers a scenic, spacious site for Monster Energy Welcome To Rockville that’s just a few hours drive from cities including Orlando, Tampa, Gainesville, Savannah and Tallahassee, and is easily accessible by plane from around the country. Metropolitan Park is a premier 27-acre recreational facility along the beautiful St. Johns River in downtown Jacksonville, Florida at 1410 Gator Bowl Blvd.

About Monster Energy: Most companies spend their money on ad agencies, TV commercials, radio spots and billboards to tell you how good their products are. At Monster Energy, we chose none of the above. Instead we support the scene, our bands, our athletes and our fans. We back athletes so they can make a career out of their passion. We promote concert tours, so our favorite bands can visit your hometown. We celebrate with our fans and riders by throwing parties and making the coolest events we can think of a reality. www.monsterenergy.com  www.facebook.com/monsterenergy

Monster Energy Welcome To Rockville Contacts

Kristine Ashton-Magnuson/Ashton-Magnuson Media (Publicity)

kristine@am-media.net; (818) 996-2496

Clay Busch/Danny Wimmer Presents (Marketing & Sponsorship)

clay@dwpresents.com