Tonight at 7:00 PM Eastern time The Night Shift will be broadcasting live from Sedona. Sedona is located in the northern Verde Valley region of Arizona and in my opinion one of the most beautiful places on the planet. Nestled among red rocks it is considered sacred by the Native Americans and thanks to high energy vortexes is known as a place of healing and spiritual renewal. A vortex is believed to be a heightened place of energy where it is beneficial to meditate, set intentions and experience peace and serenity. Vortexes are located in various places on the planet and Sedona boasts vortexes on Bell Rock, Airport Mesa, Cathedral Rock, and in Boynton Canyon. I have visited and meditated on all of these vortexes and can attest to the fact there is something very special about their energy. Friends that have accompanied me have felt the same way. I am pleased to tell you I will be broadcasting live from Boynton Canyon and invite you to participate in a meditation with me where we will access this vortex energy. I will also discuss some of the high points of this magical place and accessing this marvelous energy doing some mini readings.
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I remember the first time I heard the statement “No is a complete sentence.” It was one of those “Aha” moments. Could this possibly be true? Could I actually say “No” without feeling the need to defend my answer. It was a revolutionary idea. As a recovering “people pleaser/fix everyone problems” kind of person this seemed an almost impossible feat. With all the changes my life was currently going through it seemed a good time to examine my boundaries and make sure they were firmly in place.
Boundaries are an essential part of healthy relationships. It is knowing where your limits are and being sure that these limits are honored and respected. For me I had often agreed to do things, readily saying yes and then regretting it afterward. My reason for saying yes was more to please the other person than to stop and think what the ramifications for me may mean. Often it caused me to short change other plans I had to accommodate something I should not have agreed to do. Does this sound familiar to you? If so here are a few steps you can take that will establish healthy boundaries and in the long run keep you happy as well as the people you deal with.
- Identify your limits. You may find that these change based on your circumstances but be clear with yourself as to what you can do physically, mentally & spiritually. If you have been going through a stressful situation cut yourself some slack and don’t take on more than you can handle. Do a little inner work with this and honestly ask yourself what you can and can’t do. Being honest with yourself will provide you with your answers.
- How do you feel? Your feelings are a great barometer for assessing your limits. Why are you doing what your doing? Are you coming from a place of love or fear? Each and every act we agree to should have an element of love to it. On some level make us feel good. If we are coming from a place of fear with an emotion like guilt than resentment may often follow.
- Be clear about your limits. Let people know what you will and won’t do. With some people clear communication is a necessity and speaking your truth will always get you farther than excuses.
- Give yourself permission. This is where your “no is a complete sentence” comes in. Don’t feel you have to defend what you won’t do. You have every right to say “no” with no explanation.
- Self-Care is a must. There are times when you can take on much more than others. When you are feeling fatigued, depleted and as if you just can’t do any more pay attention. Putting yourself first is not selfish it is self loving.
Tuesday, November 1 at 7:00 PM on The Night Shift we are going to be talking about boundaries and how you can establish yours. I will also be doing mini readings in the chat room. I look forward to seeing you there!
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For those of you that may not know my husband passed away on October 6. It still seems strange writing these words. Every time the phone rings I expect it to be him explaining once again why he is running late. I listen for the door to open and hear him say hello. It is the little things like seeing the apples he had selected at the store in the crisper that bring me to my knees in grief. But the one constant that has helped me is the kindnesses I have been shown from big to little that have helped me get through these dark times. I thought I would check out kindness and what it does for us all not only physically but emotionally and spiritually as well. I found quite a bit of information and the one fact I uncovered that I found very interesting is that it does not have to be something huge to get the benefits. It can be something as simple as holding a door open for someone or smiling at a stranger on the street.
As I explored the health benefits of kindness I discovered that not only did it have a positive effect on the receiver of the act but also on the doer and observer. Astounding that one thoughtful deed could impact a minimum of 3 people and a maximum of many more. Many scientific studies have shown that an act of kindness has a positive effect on the immune system and increases serotonin production in the body. Serotonin naturally occurs in the body and helps regulate moods, calms the nerves and assists with anxiety. It is regarded as a “feel good” boost for our body and assists in helping with depression. Research also demonstrates that regular acts of kindness can help with insomnia, chronic pain, and alleviating stress.
In Psychology Today an article entitled “What We Get When We Give” (by Christine Carter, Ph.D., 2/18/10) states: “People who volunteer tend to experience fewer aches and pains. Giving help to others protects overall health twice as much as aspirin protects against heart disease. People 55 and older who volunteer for two or more organizations have an impressive 44% lower likelihood of dying — and that’s after sifting out every other contributing factor, including physical health, exercise, gender, habits like smoking, marital status, and many more. This is a stronger effect than exercising four times a week or going to church.” Those are pretty impressive results.
Speaking of my own experience, the kindnesses I have been shown have helped me immensely. Certainly from family and friends but also the random acts of people who did not know me but knew my husband and have reached out. Random acts like the young store clerk I shared my story with as I fumbled in my purse for my money obviously befuddled who gave me a big hug or the man next to me who saw me crying in the car and gave me a big smile. Yes it is the little things that have helped so much. So when you are faced with a dilemma of what to do when an act of kindness may be called for keep in mind it is not necessary for some grand gesture that it is those little random acts of kindness that mean so much.
This week, Tuesday, 10/27/2016 at 7:00 PM Eastern on The Night Shift we will discuss kindness and all its benefits. I also will be doing as many mini readings as possible to assist you in paying it forward. Join us in the chat room: https://www.facebook.com/groups/183716975330317/
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