4 Simple Ways to Reduce Stress

As I entered the room I could feel the tension of the forty-eight individuals seated at the oblong conference tables. I was about to present a workshop to these teachers on managing stress. Conditions for educators across the nation have become increasingly more demanding as states mandate more and more changes, where parents are less involved in their children’s academic achievements, and children dominate the classroom with disrespectful behaviors. I have a family member who recently resigned from teaching due to the enormous amounts of pressure he’s been under. His doctor basically told him it was either his career or his life. In one of the most highly respected fields of employment, we are now facing a crisis of immeasurable proportions that could potentially leave us with a diminishing number of highly skilled professionals dedicated to educating our youth. While I am not able to solve their occupational issues, I could provide them with the skills and knowledge to dramatically reduce the stress in their lives so as not to cause any detriment to their abilities or their health.

When asked “Where does stress come from?” there was no shortage of responses: “the administration, the state, the ridiculous amounts of unnecessary paperwork we’re expected to handle, unruly kids, uncooperative parents”, and the list went on. Like many of us, these teachers mistakenly believe that stress comes from outside sources when the truth is that all emotions are internally generated.

Clinically, professionals tell us that stress is the result of trying to do too much in a short a period of time with inadequate information and insufficient resources to complete said task. Additionally, stress comes from seeking the approval of others, from needing to control a situation (or individual), having unrealistic expectations or too much responsibility, as well as a shortage of money in relation to our expenses. And while moderate amounts of stress can actually prove beneficial and motivate us to accomplish a lot or facilitate positive changes in our lives, chronic stress is the number one cause of disease and can potentially lead to death.

In The Secret Side of Anger, I discuss the origin of all emotions: our mind. Every feeling we have is the product of our thought process. What I think about generates all of my feelings. Here’s an example: each morning I get up at 4:30. I have list upon list of everything I need to accomplish by 8 pm that evening. I create my own anxiety when I tell myself I absolutely must get it all done, as if something terrible will happen if I don’t. I don’t like feeling stressed so I simply remind myself that I will stay focused, work diligently until I reach the end of my workday, and whatever is left, if it’s important, I will continue with the following day. Likewise, if I’m on my way to an important event, such as speaking at the New Life Expo in NY City, and I’m stuck in traffic with a real possibility of being late, I remind myself that this is not the end of the world. I will simply do my best in a situation that I have no control over and when I arrive I will offer a sympathetic explanation while offering to do whatever possible to appease the situation.

Here are four tips to help you reduce the amount of tension in your life:

1. At the onset of anxiety, remember to breathe. We tend to hold our breath when we become angry, stressed or upset, depriving our brains of much-needed oxygen-rich blood. Take a few long, slow, deep breaths. You will instantly feel more relaxed.
2. Pay close attention to your internal voice. What are you saying to yourself? Are you reinforcing your nervousness or are you reminding yourself that you are completely capable of managing the situation?
3. Put everything into proper perspective. Weddings, Christmas, and surprise parties do not have to be perfect. Good is fine. Strive for enjoyable not flawless. Pay careful attention to your expectations.
4. Incorporate stress reducing activities into your daily routine. Prayer, meditation, aerobic exercise, music, yoga – whatever keeps you calm must be as much a part of your daily life as eating, brushing your teeth, and sleeping. By lowering your starting point you will find yourself less reactive to potentially stressful situations.

Remember that all emotions, including stress and anger, are self-imposed. While the world may place an enormous amount of demands on you, you have the option to decline (“no” is a legitimate response). However, if you choose to accept those challenges, keep in mind that you have freely chosen to do so, that you are more capable than you may give yourself credit for, and that unless someone’s life is in danger there is always tomorrow. “I may put off till tomorrow what I choose not to kill myself doing today.” Let that be your new mantra. The teachers gave it two thumbs up. Peace.

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Experience Your Life’s Sole Purpose and Happiness with Janet Pfeiffer on The Nancy Ferrari Show

Tune into The Nancy Ferrari Show on Tuesday, March 25th at 10:00 am PT/1:00 pm ET as my featured guest is fellow radio show host at Talk 4 Media Network, Janet Pfeiffer, who is also an international inspirational speaker and award-winning author who has appeared on CNN, Lifetime, ABC News, The 700 Club, NBC News, Fox News, The Harvest Show, Celebration, TruTV and much more. She’s been a guest on over 100 top radio shows, is a contributor to Ebru Today TV and hosts her own radio show, Anger 911, on www.Anger911.net.  She’s also a contributor to the Dr. Phil Show and an adjunct instructor at County College of Morris.

Janet has spoken at the United Nations, Notre Dame University (for the NACSDC National Conference), has served as committee member and keynote speaker for the YWCA National Week Without Violence Campaign, and is a member of the National Police Suicide Foundation and past board member for the World Addiction Foundation.

She is a former columnist for the Daily Record and has been a contributing writer to Woman’s World Magazine, Living Solo Magazine, Prime Woman Magazine and N.J. Family. Her name has appeared in print more than 100 million times, including The Wall Street Journal, Huffington Post, Fusion, Alaska Business Monthly and more than 50 other publications. 

Janet has authored 8 books, including the highly acclaimed The Secret Side of Anger (endorsed by NY Times bestselling author, Dr. Bernie Siegel). Her latest work, The Great Truth: Shattering Life’s Most Insidious Lies That Sabotage Your Happiness Along With the Revelation of Life’s Sole Purpose is also endorsed by Dr. Bernie Siegel and NY Times bestselling author, Marci Shimoff.

As Janet shares, everyone is looking to be happy but I’ve discovered something far more important. And once people understand the single reason each of us has been created (it’s not our careers, families, etc.) life become effortless to live and filled with abundant joy.

Anger 911!

Anger 911!

Why are Americans Addicted with Dr. Gregory Smith on The Nancy Ferrari Show

Important topics to be addressed on The Nancy Ferrari Show are that of epidemic proportions in America today … which are the over-prescribed pain killers and Americans who are addicted, leading to illegal drug use with unfortunate outcomes.  Tune in to The Nancy Ferrari Show on Monday, March 24th, 9:00 am PT/12:00 pm ET on www.W4CY.com as my featured guest is Dr. Gregory Smith, expert in pain management and is here to discuss key issues with addictions, new painkillers that have been approved by the FDA and the severity of these drugs and how we can overcome addiction.

Dr. Smith is a graduate from Indiana University with a degree in both Chemistry and Biology. He went on to graduate from Washington University Medical School in St. Louis and completed a residency in Anesthesiology at State Univ. of New York (SUNY) in Brooklyn New York. There he was elected chief resident and completed a fellowship in pain management. He is board-certified in both Anesthesiology and Interventional Pain Management.

Dr. Smith is the former Director of Pain Management at Harbor UCLA and Assistant Clinical Professor at UCLA. He went on to form Comprehensive Pain Relief Group Inc. in 2001 and then GS Medical Center Inc. in 2004. He is currently President and Medical Director of both. He created the NESP program for the treatment of prescription medication addiction in 2005 which is being implemented statewide and will soon be provided across the US. He has published numerous research articles, published over 12 books, hosted 2 radio shows and has appeared as guest on multiple local and national radio and television shows.

He was executive producer and co-writer of the feature film American Addict in 2012 and is currently completing his newest book “American Addict; How doctors have created a generation of drug addicts” and is in production of his new film American Addict 2 scheduled to be released in the Summer of 2014. He has lectured around the United States and currently resides in Redondo Beach, CA with his family.

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