The Connected Table Live October 22: Window on Kevin Zraly

Tune in October 22 for our featured guest and good friend, Kevin Zraly, internationally acclaimed wine educator and best-selling author of Kevin Zraly Windows on the World Complete Wine Course, with over 4 million copies sold.

kevinwine2Kevin Zraly has been described as a naturally gifted speaker who is both refreshingly humble and candid.  His passion for wine and his engaging teaching style helps demystify the ever-changing world of wine. He began his career at age 19 as a waiter and bartender in a New York Times four star rated restaurant in the Hudson Valley, New York.  In the years that followed, Kevin journeyed to vineyards in New York, California, and Europe learning his trade and developing his expertise as a sommelier.

After graduating college Kevin moved to New York City and a chance meeting with author Barbara Kafka and legendary restaurateur Joe Baum led to his hiring as the first cellar master and eventually wine director for the renowned Windows on the World restaurant atop One World Trade Center.  Windows soon became the country’s top grossing restaurant and, with Kevin at the helm of its highly acclaimed wine list, sold more wine than any restaurant in the world.  It was there that he established his Windows on the World Wine School now in its 39th year graduating more than 20,000 students ranging from wine novices and aficionados to top chefs and culinary professionals.  Kevin worked at the Windows on the World Restaurant from the day it opened in 1976 until September 11, 2001.

With his first book, Windows on the World Complete Wine Course published in 1985 (an updated annually), Kevin began translating his classes onto the pages of books where his quick wit and capacity to communicate takes the reader through his worldwide journeys from grape to glass. He is also author of the first book that covers wineries and vineyards in all 50 states, Kevin Zraly’s American Wine Guide and The Ultimate Wine Companion, a compilation of 40 world-renowned wine writers.

His numerous awards and accolades include both the 2011 James Beard Foundation Lifetime Achievement Award and 1993 Outstanding Wine & Spirits Professional of the Year; the 2006 Wine Literary Award, the 2009 Wine Professional of the Year from Santé, the Lifetime Achievement Award from the European Wine Council, and the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Society of Wine Educators.

He is has served as a member of the Culinary Institute of America’s Board of Trustees since 1990 and director of the Sherry-Lehmann/Kevin Zraly Master Wine Classes and the Sherry-Lehmann/Kevin Zraly Wine Club in New York City. He has been featured in The New York Times, People magazine, The Wall Street Journal, GQ magazine, Newsweek, and USA Today  and co-hosted the Food Network’s Wine A to Z.

We will dedicate the full 50 minutes to Kevin and will open our chat room to take your questions. To participate, log on to: www.w4cy.com

Hosted by Melanie Young and David Ransom, the insatiably curious culinary industry couple, The Connected Table Live airs Wednesdays, 2p.m.ET/11a.m. PT on www.w4cy.com. Podcasts are also available at www.iHeartRadio.com and everywhere the iHeartRadio app is available under the Shows & Personalities section.

Food is Medicine! RECIPES. Thursday, 1pm ET

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Wouldn’t it be great if you didn’t have to go to the pharmacy for over the counter drugs or prescribed medicines? Instead, why not turn to food to prevent and heal your body? The truth is Food is Medicine. Here to prove this is our guest, Dr. Patricia Bragg, Health Crusader, Angel of Health & Healing, Nutritionist, and Health & Lifestyle Educator to World Leaders, Hollywood Stars, Singers, Athletes and millions around the world She continues the legacy of her father, Paul C. Bragg (Father of the Health Food Industry), with her Bragg Live Foods company. And she has recently launched her Children’s Health Education Program call Bragg Health Kids. Dr. Bragg lives by her quote, “You are what you eat, drink, breathe, think say and do.” Here are more stirring words of wisdom from Dr. Bragg. “The whiter the bread, the sooner you are dead.” She does not mince words. If you want to live a long healthy positively active lifestyle, listen to her explain how, why and which foods will renew you mind and body daily. By the end of this interview, you will be totally invigorated! What a delicious way to live!

Come into our Family Food Experts Kitchen with Dr. Patricia Bragg, Co-Host Carolina and me as turn you on to the reality, Food is Medicine! Thursday, 1pm ET, on W4WN.com and W4CY.com.

… for the health of your family,
ellen

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Silent Anger

In the late sixties, I married my high school sweetheart. He was a quiet person by nature so when we began having difficulties in our marriage and his response was one of silence I thought it was just his personality. Little did I realize it was a manipulative technique that would eventually destroy my already fragile self-esteem.

Remaining silent is a strategy employed by many in situations where conflict arises. Your boss lashes out at your entire department, criticizing their poor job performance in general. You’ve only been working for this company for two weeks and feel he is being unfair to you. You’re angry but fear of offending him and jeopardizing your position keeps you from standing up for yourself. Your wife makes inappropriate comments to your family and friends. This really bothers you and you want to ask her to refrain from doing so. But she has a nasty temper and you are concerned about the ramifications of such a risky move.

Very often people believe that they keep quiet in situations such as these because they are too nice: they don’t want to hurt anyone’s feeling by telling the truth or cause the other person to become upset. But the truth is that those who don’t speak up are governed by fear. They are overly concerned not simply with the way the other party may react but more importantly with how that reaction will impact them. “I get really upset if anyone yells at me.” “I wouldn’t know how to respond if someone disagreed with or verbally attacked me.” Their lack of confidence renders them temporarily mute. While this may momentarily deflect an awkward situation it rarely provides a long term solution.

But there is another form of silence that I was referring to earlier and that is giving someone the silent treatment. This was the case with my first husband. Whenever I needed to discuss something important with him or tell him something he did not want to hear he would respond by not responding. In essence, I was ignored. Disregarding someone when they speak to you is a blatant form of disrespect: it sends a very clear message that you have no value, that your worth is so minimal you do not merit a response. Years of being beaten down emotionally eventually led to feelings of worthlessness, self-loathing, and feeling invisible. My fragile self-esteem was on the verge of collapse and I was dangerously approaching a point of what I referred to as non existence. I had premonitions of no longer being.

Both modes of non communication are forms of passive and/or passive aggressive anger. Fear, a root cause of anger, fuels the examples I provided: fear of being hurt, fear of rejection, fear of facing hard truths, and so forth. When one is capable and confident they know they can handle whatever challenges they encounter regardless of how the scenario plays itself out.

How does one deal with silent anger? I recommend the following:
1. Develop a healthy sense of self; know that you have the ability to handle anything with anyone at an time.
2. Relinquish any concerns of what others may think of you. Concern yourself only with being and doing what your heart tells you is right. Live to please God, no one else.
3. Develop good communication and conflict resolution skills. Rehearse possible scenarios with a trusted friend to build your self-confidence.
4. Enlist the support of others if you are going to address the other party. A strong support system enhance your authority.
5. Discuss any unresolved issues with a third party that you respect in order to gain deeper insights and awareness into the situation before taking action.
6. Know that you can respond after the fact. Not all issues need to be addressed at the exact moment. Giving yourself time to think things through thoroughly allows for a better response.
7. You deserve better! Use your voice. Speak up. Say what’s on your mind with confidence and dignity. Expect to be treated with the respect you deserve.

If you are on the receiving end of silence, may I make the following suggestions?
1. Address the way you are being treated with the offending person.
2. Ask questions: “Have I done anything to hurt/offend you? Why are you ignoring me?” Encourage a dialogue to gain insight into the nature of their behavior.
3. If possible, resolve the underlying issues.
4. Set boundaries if necessary.
5. If no resolution can be achieved at this time, let it go and move on without anger, bitterness, or resentment. Pray for their healing.
6. #7 – This applies to you regardless of which side you are on.

Silence isn’t always golden. Sometimes it is toxic. Know when it is advantageous to use the voice God gave you. If you do, say what you mean and mean what you say without being mean. You deserve to be treated with dignity and respect. It’s as simple as that.

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