The COLTS Method of Instantly Resolving Problems

We’ve all had our share of problems in life, some more than others but problems none-the-less. If you’re anything like me, you eventually grow weary dealing with and finding solutions to unpleasant situations. Rather than win the lottery, some might opt to have all of their problems vanish, never to reappear again – to live a life void of those wretched issues that devour our precious time, drain us of our emotional reserves, and sabotage our peace and happiness. Yet is it conceivable to think we can live problem free? Actually yes, it is. Let me explain.

Life is a series of events and experiences we must participate in for a number of reasons: perhaps we need to learn a valuable life lesson or the experience may be a necessary step in our journey towards a particular goal. Events may be intended to test our determination. Others enable us to tap into hidden potential necessary for our personal growth. Still others may appear simply to reward us for past efforts. Those we welcome with open arms, for sure. The others not so much. In any event, each plays a valuable role in who we become and the path our life follows.

I think most would agree that life would be easier and more enjoyable without problems to clutter up our time and deplete our energy. What few realize is that problems only exist in the mind – they are not a reality but rather a label we assign to a perceived unpleasant situation. Consider this: my husband and I share a home together and each winter endure the same amount of snow as the other. It must be cleared from driveways, sidewalks, and porches for obvious reasons. For him it’s a problem, for me a form of exercise. Same event, different experience. It’s all a matter of perception plus the labels we place upon said incident.

Consider using the COLTS Method of Classification (5 alternatives) to instantly resolve any future or existing problems. Is the situation a:

1. Challenge: is this experience here to challenge you to learn something new or to push you to achieve greater goals? Like a runner training for a marathon, accept the challenge with determination and enthusiasm, knowing you will emerge a better person.
2. Opportunity: perhaps God is ending one chapter of your life and directing you on a new path. Have faith, trust in His judgment over your own. “I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord. Plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” – Jeremiah
3. Lessons: we all need a wake-up call sometimes. A loss, setback or betrayal can often teach us more than any book or trained professional could. Appreciate the opportunity to learn.
4. Test: unexpected interruptions in our life are often testing us to enable us to determine how important something or someone is. Examine your priorities and values to ascertain what really matters. Eliminate or limit that which is secondary in worth.
5. Situation: some things just are, plain and simple. We needn’t assign a classification or emotion to every experience we have. “It is what it is” can serve us well.

Rest assured, I am not suggesting we deny or ignore the situation at hand. We must still address the issue but can now do so from an entirely different perspective, completely redefining what it is and how we allow it to impact us.
I cannot solve a problem with the same mind that created it. However, by simply re labeling it, the problem disappears and I’m left with five other options – COLTS (which, by the way, are adorable baby horses and who can be upset with them?). I can maintain a positive attitude and transform a outwardly depressing situation into one that is innocuous. And that, my friends, makes my life a whole lot easier.

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Meet Tom Ingrassia and Jared Chrudimsky

Tom Ingrassia is a motivational speaker, writer and Motown historian. In 2001, Tom left a successful, 25-year career in higher education to pursue his lifelong dream of working in the entertainment industry, with the formation of Ingrassia Productions and Artist Management. Along the way, he had the opportunity to work with many of the legendary singers he grew up listening to and idolizing in the 1960s, including Arlene Smith (The Chantels), Barbara Alston (The Crystals), June Monteiro (The Toys), The Velvelettes, and Carl Gardner (The Coasters).  The highlight, however, was serving as Executive Assistant and Creative Director for Mary Wilson, of The Supremes, from 2001-05.

MA Motown Historian

Photo by Scott Erb Photography

Today, Tom is president of The MotivAct Group LLC, offering holistic personal and professional development programs designed to guide his audiences to live into their dreams. An in-demand speaker, Tom travels the country with his motivational/goal setting program, “Mental Massage®” and “Making A Difference Begins With YOU…So Live Into Your Dreams,” and pop culture programs, “Motown and The Civil Rights Movement” and “Girl Power: The Supremes As Cultural Icons.”

An accomplished music journalist, Tom has more than 25 articles printed in publications ranging from Billboard, Worcester Business JournalSpirit of Change,Goldmine, and Record Auction Monthly, to Soul Survivor and San Francisco Hot Ticket. In 2007, Tom collaborated with Barbara Alston (of The Crystals) on her autobiography, “There’s No Other,” and Carl Gardner’s (of The Coasters) autobiography, “Yakey Yak, I Fought Back.”

Tom Ingrassiawith Mary Wilson and Barbara Ingrassia

Tom & Barbara Ingrassia with Mary Wilson at Boston’s Fleet Center, 1997. Photo courtesy Thomas Ingrassia Collection.

Tom has been a consultant to a number of entertainment and media outlets, including The Rock and Roll Hall of Fame, Vocal Group Hall of Fame, WCVB-TV (Boston), WBZ-TV (Boston), WHDH-TV, (Boston), and WXYZ-TV (Detroit). He has appeared on television and radio shows around the country, including “New England Newsmakers,” “Audio Journal,” “The January Jones Show,” “Ramona Interviews,” “The Boomer and The Babe,” and “Soapbox.” In 2002 and 2004, he worked closely with The Rock and Roll Hall of Fame and Museum to coordinate The Legendary Girl Groups Commemorative Stamps unveiling ceremony, and “Reflections: The Mary Wilson Supremes Gown Collection.”

Memorabilia from the Thomas Ingrassia Collection has been exhibited at the Whitley Gallery (Los Angeles), Barbican Centre (London), Lockhart Gallery (Geneseo, NY), Albany Institute of Art and History, the LBJ Presidential Library and Museum (Austin).

Berea College poster

Courtesy Berea College

Tom’s speaking engagements have included the National Conference on Race and Ethnicity, Hanover Theatre for the Performing Arts, Worcester Art Museum, Berea College Distinguished Speaker Series, Alice Lloyd College, Albany Institute of Art and History, State University of New York, the Long Island Museum, Cape Cod Community College, Worcester Public Library, Jacob Edwards Library, North Shore Community College, Northern Essex Community College, Massasoit Community College, Worcester State University, Leominster Public Library, Worcester Institute for Senior Education, and the Valencia Men’s Club.

Prior to entering the entertainment industry in 2001, Tom spent 25 years in higher education and private industry, achieving the position of assistant dean of the Graduate School of Management at Clark University. He also has been affiliated with Assumption College, Regis College, Urbana College, West Virginia Northern Community College, and the State Mutual Companies. Tom earned his bachelor of arts degree in history from the State University of New York at Geneseo. He holds a master of arts degree in history from  the University of Connecticut.

Tom lives by the motto, “Learn from the turtle—it only makes progress when it sticks its neck out.”

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Jeff Nischwitz
Jeff Nischwitz is the Founder and Chief Story Debunker of The Nischwitz Group, a speaking, consulting and coaching company that transforms people and organizations … one story at a time! Jeff helps businesses accelerate revenue, develop effective leaders, nurture high performing teams and execute on their objectives.

In addition to his work as a business development and leadership consultant, Jeff is a sought-after national speaker on a wide range of professional and personal development topics.