Posts Tagged ‘healing’

The Death of Innocence

The recent tragedy in Newtown, CT, is one of unspeakable horror. The latest in what appears to be an alarming trend of mass murders in American communities is, in my mind, the most gruesome – due not only to the sheer numbers of lives lost but more significantly because of the tender ages of the smallest victims.

Since the Columbine massacre in April of 1999 when Eric Harris and Dylan Kliebold stormed their high school and murdered fifteen students and teachers and wounded twenty-four more, little has been done to secure the safety of our children. Metal detectors, security cameras, SRO’s in the hallways of our schools offer little protection against one determined to commit a heinous act. Neither will gun control, tougher sentencing of the accused or even capital punishment serve as a deterrent to those filled with evil intent. We have put a Band Aid on the problem rather than treating the underlying illness behind the carnage of our people.

I was blessed to grow up in the 50’s and 60’s – a time when a parent’s most urgent concern for their children was “Look both ways before crossing the street.” Acts of violence in rural America were a rarity, not a common occurrence. But violence is only a symptom of a much deeper rooted problem: for decades our country has been in a state of extreme moral decay.

We have become a nation of self-centered, ego-driven, rude, arrogant, self-righteous people who have lost all regard for our fellow Americans. We care more about getting what we want even at the expense of others. We are a nation where power, greed, and ego take precedent over decency, compassion, and kindness. We have turned away from our religious and spiritual roots and chosen to live life on our own terms. God has become offensive to some and His Commandments obsolete and irrelevant in a modern-day world.”Love your God; love your neighbor as yourself; do not kill.” Totally archaic.

We have turned our backs on God and continually violate His Laws. And then we’re shocked when horrific events occur. That’s akin to exceeding the speed limit and then being surprised when a police officer issues you a citation. Laws are created for a reason and God’s Laws are absolute.

We have filled our hearts with hate. We glorify anger and violence, rudeness, and the infliction of pain on others as forms of entertainment then smugly proclaim satisfaction when someone gets what they deserve. We judge and label those who are different, those who are struggling with personal demons, those who do not live up to our personal standard of excellence. We feel justified in seeking revenge on anyone who has offended us and have become oblivious to (and even more shocking) indifferent to the suffering we cause others.

In our arrogance we have sanctimoniously appointed ourselves qualified to assign importance to those we deem worthy and devalue those who do not meet our criteria. A loyal friend is held in higher esteem than one who refuses to repay a loan made to them in good faith. A father who works hard to provide for his family then succumbs to alcohol to cope with stress is lowered on the scale of humanity. An unborn child, unable to sustain herself independently as of yet, is less significant than the mother carrying her.

Our ego has deceived us into believing that we have a right to live life in whatever manner serves us best. We can do what we want, when we want, however we want. If others don’t like it oh well, too bad. That’s not our problem. Our rights, feelings, and needs override that of our brothers and sisters. We have a right to be cruel, mean or hateful to those who offend us. People must earn our respect and even then, we choose who we bestow this honor upon. Respect (“to value”) is doled out according to our personal evaluation of each individual’s merit: some have greater value, some – none at all.

We have devalued human life and therein lies the root of evil in this world. We are all God’s sacred children, scarred and struggling, but no less precious in His eyes. Who among us was given authority to redefine another’s worth?
The massacre in Columbine, the slaughter of thirty-two at Virginia Tech, the recent mass murders in a movie theater in Aurora and a mall in Oregon haven’t been enough to wake this country up. Will the bloodied bodies of twenty precious babies and the heroes who gave their lives to protect them be the pivotal moment that reminds us to have reverence for all human life?

We don’t need to fear the end of the world or the so-called “fiscal cliff”. We plunged off the “spiritual cliff” decades ago and now must climb back up. It is not our government’s responsibility to fix this problem. They are powerless to repair what is broken within each of us. We, as individuals, must make a commitment to return to a life of high moral integrity.
The keys to preventing more bloodshed in this country are a return to the moral and spiritual dictates of God, to live lives filled with compassion, kindness, acceptance, inclusion, generosity, forgiveness, and love; to be a reflection of God’s presence in this world and to treat all of His children with the same dignity and tender care that He does. Only when love for all becomes the standard measure of a life well lived will we defeat hatred, destruction, and evil.
We are here to be healers to one another. With the grace and guidance of God, we can achieve this goal. Let THIS be the new American dream. Go back to your houses of worship. Read and live the words of the Bible. Raise your children in the ways of the Lord. Be the example of kindness and love for others to follow.

Rest assured: our precious little angels are resting safely in the arms of our Heavenly Father while we are left to clean up this mess we have made. God help us. Lord knows, we need it.

God gave His only Son so that we may have life. Let not the loss of these babies be in vain. Let their lives inspire us to truly learn how to love.

By Janet Pfeiffer, copyright 12-18-12, Pfeiffer Power Seminars, LLC

Words of Wisdom:
“We cannot be a world at peace until we are first a people of peace.” – Janet Pfeiffer, The Secret Side of Anger
1 Corinthians 16:14 “Let all that you do be done in love.”
Ghandi: “I must first be the change I want to see in the world.”
Prayer of St. Francis: “Lord, make me an instrument of your peace. Where there is hatred let me sow love.”
“When the power of Love becomes more important than the love of power the world will know peace.”
The comic strip character, Pogo, once said “We have met the enemy and his is us.”
Abraham Lincoln said, “The best way to defeat your enemy is to make him your friend.”

Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

PTSD is a very serious condition that can develop after a person has experienced or witnessed a traumatic or terrifying event in which serious physical harm occurred or was threatened. It can cause feelings of intense fear, helplessness, or horror resulting from a sexual or physical assault, the unexpected death of a loved one, an accident, war, or natural disaster such as Hurricane Sandy. It is not uncommon for symptoms of PTSD to occur weeks, months or even years after the event.

Symptoms of PTSD include

Reliving the ordeal through thoughts and memories of the trauma. These may include flashbacks, hallucinations, and nightmares. Reminders of the trauma can cause extreme distress.
Avoiding people, places, thoughts, or situations that remind them of the trauma. This, however, can lead to feelings of isolation, loss of interest in previously enjoyable activities. Avoidance does not allow for a healing of the trauma.
Heightened arousal can included excessive emotions, problems relating to others, sleep disturbances; irritability; outbursts of anger; difficulty concentrating; and being easily frightened. Physical symptoms, such as increased blood pressure and heart rate, rapid breathing, muscle tension, nausea and diarrhea can also occur.

In recent years, treatment for PTSD has shown great hope, allowing individuals to heal from, not just manage, the trauma. Treatment includes:

Exposure Based Treatment which encourages the person to discuss the experience and all related feelings. Staying with the emotions and learning how to process them causes the fear to dissipate or change into a more manageable feeling.
Cognitive Processing Therapy re examines any negative beliefs related to the trauma and replaces them with more realistic ones. An example might be: after a natural disaster, feeling as though one is incapable of rebuilding their life and being happy to “I have the ability and resources to recreate my life, although it may be significantly different than before, to one that is rewarding and enjoyable.”
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy helps the individual to identify the feelings associated with the trauma and rather than avoiding them, discover new ways of coping that allow them to regain their lives. By focusing on core values, they can select behaviors that are more empowering and beneficial.

This is only a brief synopsis of my interview with Dr. Holly Parker, licensed psychologist from Harvard University. If you or someone you know would benefit from working with a PTSD specialist, please reach out to Dr. Holly or someone in your area. There is hope. No one needs to suffer from a traumatic experience. Avoidance and denial don’t heal. Facing it with a trained professional will. Feel it so you can heal it.

Contact Dr. Holly Parker at or follow her on Facebook at Dr. Holly Parker.

11.12.12 “CHER”ing “My” Smile with Guest Holistic Therapist/Energy Healer, Michelle Alva



Michelle Alva, PT, RYT, EHP is a holistic physical therapist, energy healer, belly dance teacher and yoga therapist. She empowers, inspires and educates through her writings, one-on-one healing sessions, workshops and public speaking. Michelle’s diverse background has taught her that we are limitless beings able to co-create and manifest our true heart’s desire to live a life filled with passion, ease and lightness. She is a catalyst for individuals to heal, de-stress, energize and align with their authentic self.
Michelle sings with the TAO Orchestra and recently created a guided meditation CD called Free Yourself to empower and educate individuals on how to tap into their inner resources to heal, energize and de-stress from the inside out. Visit her and receive a free gift at