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Why Forgiveness is Obsolete

My mother has always been an advocate of forgiveness. When I was a child she taught me early on to let go of being angry with people. If a friend hurt me she suggested that perhaps they didn’t realize what they had done. If it was a family member, well, families don’t hold grudges. And as Christians, that is what we are told to do: forgive one another as God has forgiven us. Extending mercy towards others has always come easy to me. I’ve never been one to hold on to resentment or anger.

As a motivational speaker, lecturing on forgiveness is one subject I’ve always been passionate about because it holds the key to inner peace. We cannot experience joy, love, health, or gratitude if we carry within us bitterness from the past. We cannot experience the full abundance of God’s blessings when we live with acrimony and hostility. There are many who want to forgive but don’t know how. For those individuals, I show them the steps necessary to achieve serenity.

However, I’ve since come to the awareness that forgiveness is actually not necessary at all. The reason why God gave us this gift of spiritual healing is because in our ego-centered brains we are quick to judge and label one another. “He’s a dead-beat dad.” “My sister-in-law is a real witch!” The moment we do so we trigger our own anger. We also make the mistake of comparing each other: “I would never hurt you the way you just hurt me!” “Your brother is a straight A student. Why can’t you be more like him?” And we are quick to criticize others for their perceived faults: “You think you’re better/smarter/prettier than everyone else.” Add to that the expectations we place on others that are totally unrealistic and unfair: “You’re an adult. You should know better than to get drunk when you go out.” And to exacerbate matters even more we take personal offense to their words and actions. (Behaviors are merely an outward expression of an internal issue. They have nothing at all to do with the person being targeted.) Judge, label, compare, criticize, expect, take personal offense: add, mix and ingest for one lethal cocktail!

Here’s the cycle most of us fall into: You say or do something. I place judgment upon you, compare you, label you, or take personal offense to your actions. I become angry and upset. In order to restore harmony within me I must put forth time and effort to forgive you so that I may once again experience the inner peace I had before this sequence began. Sounds a bit insane doesn’t it? It’s like having a new pair of shoes, walking through a mud puddle and ruining them and then spending time and effort to restore them to perfection. Why not simply refrain from soiling them from the get go?
So the question becomes: forgive you for what? For being human? For not being who you decided I should be? For not living up to my preconceived notions about where you should be in your personal journey in life? Sounds kind of arrogant and ego-driven to me.

Here are some suggestions to make forgiving obsolete:
1. Do not take personal offense to what others say or do. There behavior is not about you.
2. Remove all comparisons to yourself or others. Allow each individual to be who they are and do what is necessary for their spiritual journey.
3. Practice patience, compassion, kindness, and understanding.
4. Remove all labels and judgments. Be an “objective observer”.
5. Love unconditionally – all people, all of the time.

When you achieve a state of full spiritual awareness you remove all judgment, expectations, labels, and demands from yourself and others. Anger and bitterness are replaced with simple observation. One is able to view the other party’s behavior objectively and without opinion. It simply is what it is. By remaining impartial one avoids the entrapment of unsympathetic emotions, thus rendering forgiveness obsolete. And life becomes infinitely easier.

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Healthy Child, Healthy World. Thurs. 1pm ET

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Healthy Child, Healthy World. That’s makes sense. Challenge is, the increase number of children who are sick is rising at a disturbing rate because they are living in an increasingly unhealthy world. These days, at birth, on average, babies have about 200 unwanted chemicals already flowing through their veins. No wonder cancer is a leading cause of death for children under 15. Facts such as these has motivated “Healthy Child, Healthy World” to empower parents to take action and protect children from harmful chemicals now found in the soil, food, housing materials, cleaning solutions and even the clothes children wear. Our guest, Alexandra Zissu, will explain how small changes can produce a healthy difference. As Editor Director for “Healthy Child, Healthy World”, author of books such as The Conscious Kitchen, food and health journalist writing articles for publications such as Women’s Wear Daily, Teen Vogue, New York Times and Huffington Post, Alexandra is on top of these issues. She will explain what we can do to reverse the toxicity of our world, starting in our homes. It’s not too late to demand corporate accountability, engage in collective action in your community, influence legislation,regulatory reform and vote for safer chemicals and products. It is time to look at the truth in the eye and participate in healthy change, for the health of our children!

Come into our Family Food Experts Kitchen with Alexandra and Co-Host Carolina as we discuss the simple steps each one of us can take to make a “Healthy Child, Healthy World!” Thursday, 1pm ET, on W4WN.com and W4CY.com.

… for the health of your family,
ellen

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If you miss the live show, tune in on Sunday, 1pm ET, W4WN.com

Food is Medicine! RECIPES. Thursday, 1pm ET

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Wouldn’t it be great if you didn’t have to go to the pharmacy for over the counter drugs or prescribed medicines? Instead, why not turn to food to prevent and heal your body? The truth is Food is Medicine. Here to prove this is our guest, Dr. Patricia Bragg, Health Crusader, Angel of Health & Healing, Nutritionist, and Health & Lifestyle Educator to World Leaders, Hollywood Stars, Singers, Athletes and millions around the world She continues the legacy of her father, Paul C. Bragg (Father of the Health Food Industry), with her Bragg Live Foods company. And she has recently launched her Children’s Health Education Program call Bragg Health Kids. Dr. Bragg lives by her quote, “You are what you eat, drink, breathe, think say and do.” Here are more stirring words of wisdom from Dr. Bragg. “The whiter the bread, the sooner you are dead.” She does not mince words. If you want to live a long healthy positively active lifestyle, listen to her explain how, why and which foods will renew you mind and body daily. By the end of this interview, you will be totally invigorated! What a delicious way to live!

Come into our Family Food Experts Kitchen with Dr. Patricia Bragg, Co-Host Carolina and me as turn you on to the reality, Food is Medicine! Thursday, 1pm ET, on W4WN.com and W4CY.com.

… for the health of your family,
ellen

www.KidKritics.org
www.FuelYourDreams.org
www.FamilyFoodExperts.org

If you miss the live show, tune in on Sunday, 1pm ET, W4WN.com