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Doorbells, Dishtowels, Ducks, And Cake Relieve Anger

Ducks, dishtowels, and doorbells: one wouldn’t think they’re connected to anger in any way. Cake, on the other hand, is a no-brainer: when upset, eat some. Plain and simple. No one can be angry when stuffing their mouths with a confectionary delight topped with butter cream icing and sugar roses. Yum! As tempting as it may sound to consume a sugary treat when angry that’s actually not what I’m suggesting. Let me explain.
Anger is a feeling of powerlessness. Feeling helpless makes us feel weak and vulnerable. In an attempt to protect ourselves from harm, we may respond by becoming defensive. Anger, regardless of how it is used, is a very powerful force and momentarily satisfies that need. In those incidences where anger actually manifests we need techniques, comparable to the SWaT Strategy*, to quickly and effectively manage it. However, there are occurrences where anger does not manifest yet the situation still garners our attention.

How, then, can we can prevent ourselves from using anger as a response in any given situation?

1. Dead as a Doorbell: How many of you remember door-to-door salesman? They would climb the steps of your front porch, ring the bell, and once you answered try to convince you that what they were selling was exactly what you needed. Sometimes, the homeowner would surrender and spend money on something they may not have wanted, only to become angry and dismayed at the salesman for the intrusion into their domain or for not being strong enough to resist their pitch. One solution could be to simply ignored the persistent, annoying buzzer or another is to disconnect the doorbell entirely. In that way, the salesperson could press the buzzer for eternity and elicit no transaction. The homeowner does not react because they are disengaged from the actions of the salesman. One can train themselves to remain emotionally detached (not unlike doctors in an ER) and not react to an otherwise annoying or bothersome situation.

2. The Great Duck and Dishtowel Debate: Get a large bowl. In it, place a washcloth and a small rubber duck. Pour water (which represents life experiences) over both and observe what happens. The dishcloth absorbs the water and it’s added weight causes it to sink to the bottom of the bowl. The duck, on the other hand, allows the water to roll off it’s back, thereby staying afloat. In life, we choose to absorb our experiences increasing the risk of drowning in our own anger. Or we can mimic a duck and stay afloat by allowing them to simply roll off our backs. Simple image, powerful message.

Now on to the cake:
3. The Big Birthday Blowout: The next time you feel anger begin to emerge, take a moment and stop what you are doing. Imagine it’s your birthday. Envision the birthday cake of your dreams down to the smallest detail. Place the appropriate number of candles on the cake. In your mind, light each one. Then, take a deep breath, hold it, and before exhaling, sing (to yourself) the Happy Birthday song. Mentally blow out one candle. Repeat until each wax decoration is extinguished. Depending on your age, you may hyperventilate and pass out before you’ve completed this assignment (if you’re as old as I am!). So you may want to substitute a child or grandchild’s age for safety reasons. In any event, by the time all of the candles are snuffed out, you will have either 1) forgotten what you were upset about, 2) put it into perspective and realized it’s lack of significance, or 3) become too exhausted to deal with it. Either way, you’ve prevented a melt-down and a potentially unfavorable outcome. The situation can always be addressed at a later date when you have given yourself ample time to think things through logically and unemotionally.

Having struggled most of my life with anger, (from suppressing it to raging, back to suppressing, and finally finding peace with my surroundings) I realized that 99.99% of what we get upset about has relatively little importance. Address what you must, ignore what is trivial, accept that which you cannot nor or must not change, save the anger for the really big stuff (which is almost nil) and be at peace with the outcome. You’ll enjoy life a whole lot more.

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Sweet Treats You Can Live With! RECIPES. Thurs. 1pm ET

Recipe,3IngredientChocolatePopcornBark,BrendaBennett
Tis the season for treats to serve at parties, celebrations, and to enjoy as goodies just because! “Sweet Treats” is the name of this season’s game.
But, how do you escape adding those unwanted pounds? How do you avoid sugar highs and headaches? How do you prevent energy outbursts by your kids followed by melt-downs, not to mention the destruction sugar causes to their immune system and teeth? Is there a way to have sweet treats that you can live with – ones that satisfy you without using artificial substitutes, ones your guests and family will love when you entertain? Good News! The answer is, “Yes!” Our guest, Brenda Bennett, The Sugar-Free Mom, has a sugar-free idea a minute, well almost one a minute. From “Flourless Low Carb Pumpkin Cookies” to “3 Ingredient Chocolate Popcorn Bark” and “Gluten Free Apple Carrot Quinoa Mini Muffins (no sugar added)”, she will fill you up with Treats You Can Live With!

Come into our Family Food Experts Kitchen with Brenda, Co-Host Carolina (Kid Kritics Approved) and me as we get ready for a season of sweet treats that are out of this world naturally sugar-free delicious! Thursday, 1pm ET, on W4WN.com and W4CY.com.

… for the health of your family,
ellen

www.KidKritics.org
www.FuelYourDreams.org
www.FamilyFoodExperts.org

If you miss the live show, tune in on Sunday, 1pm ET, W4WN.com

Healthy Child, Healthy World. Thurs. 1pm ET

HealthyChild,HealthyWorld

Healthy Child, Healthy World. That’s makes sense. Challenge is, the increase number of children who are sick is rising at a disturbing rate because they are living in an increasingly unhealthy world. These days, at birth, on average, babies have about 200 unwanted chemicals already flowing through their veins. No wonder cancer is a leading cause of death for children under 15. Facts such as these has motivated “Healthy Child, Healthy World” to empower parents to take action and protect children from harmful chemicals now found in the soil, food, housing materials, cleaning solutions and even the clothes children wear. Our guest, Alexandra Zissu, will explain how small changes can produce a healthy difference. As Editor Director for “Healthy Child, Healthy World”, author of books such as The Conscious Kitchen, food and health journalist writing articles for publications such as Women’s Wear Daily, Teen Vogue, New York Times and Huffington Post, Alexandra is on top of these issues. She will explain what we can do to reverse the toxicity of our world, starting in our homes. It’s not too late to demand corporate accountability, engage in collective action in your community, influence legislation,regulatory reform and vote for safer chemicals and products. It is time to look at the truth in the eye and participate in healthy change, for the health of our children!

Come into our Family Food Experts Kitchen with Alexandra and Co-Host Carolina as we discuss the simple steps each one of us can take to make a “Healthy Child, Healthy World!” Thursday, 1pm ET, on W4WN.com and W4CY.com.

… for the health of your family,
ellen

www.KidKritics.org
www.FuelYourDreams.org
www.FamilyFoodExperts.org

If you miss the live show, tune in on Sunday, 1pm ET, W4WN.com