WHAT IS FAITH?

We live in a society, a world, which has little faith in God. When we say God most people take their relationship with Him very causal. As if He and what He said have no relevance in their personal life. Their view point is God is in the clouds, I’m here on earth struggling, I will call Him when I need Him. Is this the kind of relationship God wants to have with us? If this is our concept of God no wonder why Jesus said 2000 years ago and is still today “this is a faithless generation”. But we have to be honest about our thought processes, attitudes, stumbling blocks, and concepts about God; otherwise we are just spinning our wheels and getting no where.

If you ask the majority of people do they believe in God their answer would be yes! If you ask people if they have faith in God they would most likely say yes! But if you ask what does faith means, then the break down begin. Some may say faith means believe, others may say love, and others may say go to church, or pray. This reminds me when Jesus asked His disciples Matthew 16:13-14 “……Who do people say that I the Son of man am? And they said, some say that you art John the Baptist: some, Elijah; and others, Jeremiah, or one of the prophets.” Once again we are NOT sure.

According to dictionary.com Faith means to have confidence or trust in a person or a thing and to have strong or unshakable belief in something. Now take that definition and apply it to God….so faith means to have confidence in God and Trust in God and have a strong or unshakable belief in God.

According to dictionary.com faith for Christians mean trust in God (who God is) and in His actions (what God has done) and promises (what God has spoken); both the good and the bad. This is called Christianity NOT religion because to trust and have confidence in God is an ongoing lifestyle which is shown in your day to day living. You do not have trust in God on Sunday and Wednesday but every other day you are free to live as you choose. That mean the heart (the center of your life) truly do not trust God but only giving a show for maybe your parents, spouse, friends, and whomever.

So let’s define the word Trust, it means the reliance on the integrity, strength, ability and surety of God. Faith in God means Trusting God’s integrity (what He said and what He has done is true) in other words true then and true now; relying on God’s strength (2

In Corinthians 12:9 “And The Lord said unto Paul, My grace is enough for you: for my strength is made perfect in weakness….Paul goes on to say ….” most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities (weakness), that the power of Christ (His strength) may rest upon me (stay and remain with)”. Paul trusted in God’s strength. Faith in God means to trust in His ability to heal, restore, to deliver, to guide, to do the impossible.

Proverbs 3:5-8
Trust (have Faith) in the LORD with all your heart; and lean not unto your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths. Be not wise in your own eyes: fear (greatly respect) the LORD, and depart from evil (repent).
It shall be health to your navel (belly button – the central point or middle of your life), and marrow (the inner most or essential part for strength, survival, and growth) to your bones.

Trust is something we have to learn and unfortunately we learn about Trust through experiences. If we have any bad experiences with Trust dealing and interacting with people then naturally we apply mankind’s shortcomings to God; as if He will be the same way. That’s the wrong concept of God. We have it backwards, we have imputed our sinful character upon God; but the Bible teaches that God’s desire is to impute His righteous, holy, perfect character upon us but none of this can happen without trusting Him; trusting who He is (God), trusting His actions and ways, and trusting His word despite what the nay-Sayers says.

HA-HA SORB APPROACH TO BULLIES

People don’t typically want to interact with those they consider to be bullies or tyrants. Yet contrary to popular belief, bullies are not bad people. It’s their behaviors that are appalling. They act out their pain, loneliness, insecurities, and so on in the most offensive and unkind ways. But as I’ve stated repeatedly, behavior is only an outward expression of one’s internal issues. Having said that, many people are hesitant to interact with them, uncertain of the bully’s reactions or if they will be safe in doing so. Others label bullies in a very derogatory manner, stating that they are not worth their time and effort.

With the exception of those times when you or someone else is in imminent danger, there are some steps you can take to reach out and intervene with a bully.
HA-HA SORB Method stands for help, assert, humor, avoid, self-talk, own it, reach out, and befriend.

H: Help. Whenever we encounter a bully, we have two options regarding offering assistance: we can either go for it or give it. If we witness someone being mistreated, we can intervene if we feel qualified and comfortable doing so and if there is no immediate or severe threat to the self. An approach that is composed, confident, thoughtful, sincere, objective, non-threatening, and understanding can often diffuse the situation, give the bully pause for thought, and can prevent the situation from escalating. In the event the situation is of a more serious nature, one can call for or go for help, enlisting the assistance of those more qualified to intercede. We are called upon by God to be stewards for one another and either approach is a morally righteous one.
Ex: One can, “What’s going on here? Is something wrong/is there a problem? Can I help either of you?” Or, “You need to stop right now or I’m calling for help.”

A: Assert. Bullies, whether adults or children, seek to gain power and control over their targets by instilling fear in them through intimidation, threats, coercion, or manipulation. Any sign of weakness on the part of target affirms that the bully has authority thus enabling them to continue their aggressiveness. Assertive actions send a clear message to the offender, by the target, that they have the confidence and skills necessary to impede their efforts as they remain emotionally unaffected by their demands.
Ex: “I have no interest in arguing with you.” “I will not allow this to happen.” “What you are doing is unkind/illegal/against company policy and needs to stop right now before matters get worse.”

H: Humor. Humor is one of the most powerful tools for deflecting anger, neutralizing aggression, calming tensions, and diffusing a bully. However, there are some caveats. One must be certain that humor is appropriate for the situation and that it is never directed at the other party but only at the self or the circumstances.
Ex: “I can be a dork sometimes! In fact, my name is listed in the dictionary under ‘geek’ It says, ‘See Janet’.” “I can’t believe I did that – how embarrassing!”

A: Avoid. If there is someone who you know is a tyrant there is no shame in avoiding them whenever possible. Why put yourself in harm’s way or invite drama into your life when a simply change in your course of direction can alleviate any undue stress? In doing so, not only do you protect yourself but you are actually giving an unintended gift to the persecutor by not providing an opportunity for them to misbehave and possibly get in trouble.
Ex: If you know that individual always arrives at work precisely at 8 pm, either arrive slightly beforehand or enter through another doorway.

S: Self-talk. Our internal dialogue is responsible for all of our feelings. What we say to ourselves (our thoughts) determine how we feel and thus how we react or respond. Reminding ourselves that no one is born a bully, that it is a learned behavior and/or a defense mechanism, we can be more compassionate and understanding that this individual is dealing with issues of insecurity or low self-esteem. Their behaviors are an attempt to protect themselves from a perceived threat or to raise their image among their peers. Self-talk will either cause us to be fearful and angry towards them or be more understanding while boosting our self-confidence in how we deal with them.
Ex: “John’s not a bad guy. He’s a devoted father but seems insecure about his job. I can forgive him, set some boundaries, and find a way to get along with him as best as possible.”

O: Own It. If you are being targeted, take ownership for who you are, any mistakes you’ve made, any imperfections you may have, or for the simple truth about yourself. Doing so illustrates your awareness of truth, ability to feel comfortable and accepting of it, and diffuses the bullies authority over our feelings and response.
Ex: “Yes, I am grossly overweight and I know it puts me at risk for all sorts of health issues. Hopefully one day soon I’ll take action to improve my health.”

R: Reach Out. This is a difficult step that few are willing to embark upon. Reaching out to the aggressor puts one at risk for rejection, ridicule, retaliation or more. However, it is the first step to breaking down the barriers of fear they are struggling with and hopefully building some level of trust in the relationship. Undeniably challenging, this will no doubt take time and skillful effort to accomplish. Start small; be consistent; and like water running over a jagged rock and eventually smoothing the stone’s sharp edges, in time a level of trust can occur and the offensive behavior will subside.
Ex: First encounter: “Hi, John.” Second: “Hey, John. How’s it going?” Third: “John, have you seen Sharon? I need to ask her a question.”Fourth: “How was your weekend? Did you see the Yankee’s game on Saturday?” (Re: persistence and patience pays huge dividends.)

B: Befriend. As you establish a pleasant, non threatening relationship, the other party begins to see you as someone they can trust. In time, you can be a friend, on a limited basis if you choose, who can be influential in their progression from being an intimidator to a confident, secure, more approachable individual.
Ex: “My wife baked cookies last night. I brought some in for you. Hope you like them.” “Can I help you with that project?” “We’re having cake for Martha for her birthday. Won’t you please join us in the lounge?”

I want to reiterate that bullies are not bad people; they are the product of fear and insecurity.

“Those who are the most difficult to be kind to and befriend are the ones who need it the most.”

Many bullies have histories of having been mistreated or abused. What they need more than condemnation and exclusion is understanding, fair guidelines in the relationship, reasonable consequences for their offensive behaviors, and a strong support system. In this way, they can begin to heal their issues, get along better with family and peers, and lead morally upright lives.

“The only way to defeat your adversary is to make him your ally.”

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Happy Summer Solstice!

June 21 heralds the summer solstice in the Northern Hemisphere the longest day of the year. This is due to the fact that on this day the sun travels the longest path through the sky. It is also the official first day of summer. Cancer is the astrological sign the sun falls in and represents mother, nurturing and family. Being a water sign it invites us to be flexible and fluid this time of year. Kicking back and enjoying it all. Whether at a beach,in a pool or even your bathtub the solstice invites us to dive in and soak a bit. Let out all the kinks accumulated this winter and just float!
The ancients honored this time as a sacred holiday welcoming the sun’s return. How can we honor it you may ask? Well to have a really fun time you could travel to Stonehenge where the celebration there literally attracts thousands of people or you could find a way to honor this day right in your own backyard.
Here are a few suggestions:

  • Get out in nature. Visit a park, hug a tree..well you get the idea. This is a day to celebrate Mother Earth.
  • Have a drumming circle as the sun sets honoring the light that is permeating the planet.
  • Take a sea salt bath and meditate setting an intention for what you would like to do this summer with a big focus on fun and joy.
  • Because fire is another aspect of this celebration have a bonfire and if you feel it maybe dance around it?! If not enjoy the flames and release any of the old stuff that may be holding you back.

Whatever you choose to do the key is to have fun with this celebration. It is my belief that right now focusing on the light by being as joyful as possible is the best way to spend our time. We are the beckons of sun that will brighten the path of this world even though at times it seems so dark. Having a joyous time will not only raise our vibrations but countless others that are touched by our energy. So kick up your heels, drum, dance, and just have fun!

Tuesday, June 20th at 7:00 PM Eastern time The Night Shift will explore this topic. In addition the fairies are going to visit and will be helping me do mini readings throughout the show!  I invite you to join me and the Facebook chat room: https://www.facebook.com/groups/183716975330317/

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