January Jones-Divorce Guru Hogan Hilling

January Jones-Divorce Guru Hogan Hilling

 

Divorce Guru

Divorce Guru

 

About The Author: 

Hogan Hilling is the Divorce Guru, and author of a revolutionary book about divorce “When Divorce Do Us Part: How to Live and Love Again”, (Motivational Press, 2013). Hilling has appeared on Oprah and ABC’s Documentary The Story of Fathers and Sons. Hilling serves as a facilitator for the St. Andrews Divorce Recovery Workshop in Newport Beach, California and speaker for the “Free to Love Again” Divorce Recovery Program in Laguna Beach, California.

 

HoganHilling is also the founder of Divorce Guru , an exclusive consultation membership based service for spouses in the divorce process. Divorce Guru’s mission is to show a spouse how to win the mental game of divorce with integrity.

13 Quick Questions for Clarifying Anger

Do you ever wonder why it’s so hard to break a habit? Whether it’s biting your fingernails, the way you speak, or your reaction to drivers who cut you off on the highway, old habits die hard. The reason being is that behaviors, when repeated frequently enough, become habitual. We no longer consciously think about what we are doing or saying. We react rather than intentionally respond to a person or situation.

So it is with anger. Anger is not a bad emotion. All emotions are messengers that provide valuable insight into our nature and personal issues. Anger, when channeled properly, can actually motivate us to make positive changes in our lives. Many laws have been passed in response to angry citizens outraged over an injustice. In the case of a loving parent gently trying to guide their drug-addicted teen back to the road of sobriety, they reach their breaking point and erupt in anger, issuing an ultimatum. “I’ve had enough! Either you get into rehab immediately or I’m done with you!” Their response to anger erupts out of feelings of desperation. For others, rage is an automatic reaction to an uncomfortable situation.

The first key to amending a habit and facilitating change is awareness. Without the wherewithal to identify what is not working, one is powerless to transform themselves. When asked, “Why are you angry?” or “Why did you react that way?” most people I’ve met answer, “I don’t know.” If they don’t know why then modifying the situation is impossible or, at best, hit and miss. (I use hit figuratively – hitting is not good. So please don’t do it.)

Below are a series of short questions designed to help you clarify what, when, and why you get angry. By answering these questions each time you get upset, you will discover deeper insights in each situation and the self. Generally speaking, individuals will begin to see a pattern emerge. Once acknowledged, the individual can take their new-found awareness and purposefully choose alternative responses.

Think about a scenario in which you typically respond with anger. Recreate it in your head as best you can. Then take a few moments and answer the following questions. Do so each time a situation or person triggers anger in you. Once you begin to see a pattern emerge, you’ll be better prepared to either avoid the trigger if possible or choose a more appropriate and affirming response.

Thirteen Quick Questions for Clarity:
o What is occurring?
o Who is present?
o What is being said/implied?
o Is my perception of this person/situation fair?
o What have I said/done to contribute to the situation? What is the other party responsible for?
o What time of day is it?
o Where am I? (location)
o What am I really feeling? (root cause – hurt, fear, frustration)
o What do I need? What am I expecting?
o Is this need/expectation realistic?
o How important is this issue really?
o How can I get my needs met? (this is my responsibility)
o What lessons have I learned from this experience?

This process should take no more than about five minutes each time you engage in it. That’s a very small and inexpensive price to pay to gain the awareness you need to reduce the anger in your life and allow peace to flourish. Remember, awareness is key. Without it, you are doomed to a life of mediocrity and suffering. You can transform your life from angry outbursts to peaceful responses. In this case, thirteen can prove to be your lucky number.

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Beyond the Veil: Soul Connections

May 26th 7:00 PM EST on Beyond the Veil: Soul Connections 

 

Topic: In Pursuit of the Divine with Special Guest Krista Gustavson

 

 

On the next episode of Soul Connections, Maggie is happy share information about a new project she has been working on. It begins with a chapter in a book anthology set for release on May 30th. The book is titled, “In Pursuit of the Divine”. 

 

 

Krista Gustavson is the creative force behind the book project and will share how this book was created in collaboration with 30 dynamic women who share real life inspirational stories as they embark on their  journey In Pursuit of the Divine. 

 

 

Maggie will share about the chapter she wrote entitled “Sacred Healing”. It is the story of Maggie’s search for a magic pill or potion to help her heal her dying body and how it ended with her knowing that healing is a daily lifestyle choice and the power to heal was within her all along.

 

 

Krista will also share information of the next phase of feminine collaboration she is organizing, a virtual weekend retreat one weekend every month starting in June. The Feminine Rising is the worlds leading community of healing Retreats for empowering a Woman’s Soul. More information about Krista and her inspiring projects can be found on her website www.Femininerisingretreat.com 

 

 

Maggie is happy to be a part of this next phase of collaboration. More information to come so be sure to make time to listen to this transformative hour on Soul Connections. 

 

 

This is a very special show and will be live on May 22nd at 11:00 am EST on W4HC Health Café Live .com then rebroadcast on Memorial Day, May 26th at 7:00 PM EST on  w4wn.com  

 

 

So tune in as Maggie and her guest Krista Gustavson shares their understanding of being In Pursuit of the Divine. 

 

 

To learn more about Maggie please visit her website at www.MaggieChula.com