Spiritual Healing Throught Forgiveness

We have all been hurt by the things others have said or done (notice I didn’t include “to me/us” at the end of that sentence).* Very often, we say or do things that are inconsiderate or hurtful to the other party. Sometimes, we commit an offense by failing to do what we need to. Whether intentional or not, our actions, or lack of, can cause considerable suffering to another.

How often are you willing to forgive the imperfections of others? Do you choose to let go of past offenses or do you hold on to your anger? Are you understanding of their weaknesses or do you hold them hostage to their bad behavior? Have you ever sought revenge or chosen to “get even” for what they’ve said or done?

Many don’t realize that forgiveness is a choice. It is a conscious decision to be understanding of another,s imperfections. Each of us has inflicted pain on another: we lash out in anger or fail to be patient when necessary; we take advantage of another,s generous spirit rather than show them appreciation; we are disrespectful or argumentative instead of honoring each individual and their opinions.

Forgiveness does not release one from being held accountable for an offense. Rather, it recognizes that each of us behaves poorly at times because we are all imperfect. Forgiveness is a choice I make for my own well-being. It is not contingent upon whether or not the other admits to any wrongdoing or if they even apologize. To hold on to anger long after the offense has been committed only hurts me. It holds me hostage to the past and inhibits me from fully enjoying the present.

Twenty years ago I fell and broke my elbow. I remember the circumstances of the fall and the intense pain I experienced. The bone gradually healed and I regained full use of my arm. There is not more pain. Forgiveness is the spiritual equivalent to healing a physical injury: I remember the event but I no longer feel the anger, bitterness or resentment. All negative emotions have healed. I am free to experience the joy and wonder of living in the moment.

While it is not wise to “forgive and forget” (to forget carries the risk of the offense repeating itself), forgiveness is the ultimate act of self-love. Forgiveness is the path to inner peace and when you have inner peace you have it all.

Watch a very powerful 3 minute video on forgiveness @ www.FromGodWithLove.net.

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January Jones welcomes Russ Hovendick, Make Yourself Fireproof!

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Comments typically associated with his efforts, will focus on his relaxed “No Pressure” approach along with his unique ability to match the right personality with the culture of an organization.

Outside of recruiting, Russ, is very active in his church and community, serving as Treasurer for 17 years, and volunteering as Chaplain in Jail, Prison, and Boys Ranch ministries. He and his wife Carleen have been married for over 30 years and have two grown children, with a son who is also active in the recruiting industry.

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Cyber Bullying in a High Tech World with Holli Kenley, M.A. on The Nancy Ferrari Show

The Nancy Ferrari Show is honored to introduce special guest, Holli Kenley, M.A., on July 29th, 9:00 am PT/12:00 pm ET on www.W4CY.com to discuss cyber bullying that is reaching epidemic proportions.

Our children are growing up on a diet of technology with immediate access to world-wide social connections. Because it has become such a normative behavior in our society for our children to have a cell phone, lap top, iPhone or iPad, etc., parents/guardians sometimes forget about the window of danger that is open to them.  Typically, it is not until victims have experienced extreme humiliation through cyber bullying attacks or until the perpetrators have been identified that some action, if any, is taken.  By the time clinicians and therapists see the victims or perpetrators and their parents/guardians, we are confronted with many challenges and complexities. Based on current literature as well as the most recently published works on cyber bullying, cyber bullying  no more: Parenting A High Tech Generation  describes a three part comprehensive, practical and effective approach to assessment and treatment – Protection, Intervention, and Prevention – and it delineates specific strategies and tools to implement within each.

Holli Kenley is a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist . She holds a Master’s Degree in Psychology with an emphasis in Marriage, Family, and Child Counseling. She has worked in a variety of settings: a women’s shelter, a counseling center and in private practice. Counseling with adolescents, teens, young and older adults, Holli’s areas of training and experience include sexual trauma, abuse, addiction, codependency, domestic violence, betrayal and cyber bullying. Holli is the author of numerous published articles and in 2010, she authored her second book, Breaking Through Betrayal: And Recovering the Peace Within. Recently released are two e-singles: Betrayal-Proof Your Relationship: What Couples Need To Know And Do and cyber bullying no more: Parenting a High Tech Generation.

In addition to her work as a therapist and an author, Holli enjoys speaking at workshops and conferences. For the past three years, Holli has been a peer presenter at the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists’ Annual Conferences speaking on the topics of betrayal and cyber bullying. At the 2012 Annual Conference, Holli addressed the issue of cyber bullying with an emphasis on protection, intervention, and prevention. Prior to and during her career as a therapist, Holli taught for thirty years in public education.