My guest today was Chloe Jonpaul who spoke about the FGA Quotient. FGA stands for frustration, guilt and anger. All are interconnected in some way. And while each creates an uncomfortable environment for us, we need to pay attention to them (as with all emotions) for they all have value and purpose.
Frustration is an indication that something or someone is not what we desire it to be and we feel powerless to facilitate the changes we desire. The harder we try, the greater our level of frustration when change is not forthcoming. Rather than try to force something to be what we want it to be, we can accept that, for now, it is what it is. Accepting that which we do not have the ability or right to alter allows us to be at peace with it and focus our energy on what we are able to change.
Guilt is the voice of our conscience. It alerts us to the fact that something is wrong. Guilt can become a destructive force when we get stuck in it as it will slowly erode our self-esteem. By simply relabeling guilt, we can manifest a very different, and positive, outcome. Rather than state, “I feel guilty about not spending time with my children”, restate it as “I’m going to to make time each day for my sons.” Creative problem solving restores our personal power and provides hope that the situation will improve.
Anger is not a bad emotion as many believe. In fact, is can be a very motivating force to bring about positive change. Anger is a messenger of sorts, warning us that something is amiss and needs our attention. Once we’ve received the message, we can direct all of our time, energy, and resources into creating a positive outcome.
Very often people seek to immediately alleviate themselves of uncomfortable feelings. However, it is imperative to spend some time with them, discover what they are here to tell us about ourselves or the situation, and choose to use each one as a motivator of transformation. Frustration, guilt, and anger can be beneficial if we choose to use them as such.
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You can learn more about Chloe Jonpaul by visiting her website, www.Chloejonpaul.com .
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