At some point in almost every person’s life, we have made false assumptions about another or blamed an innocent party for something they were not responsible for. Needless to say, both of these behaviors can lead to hurt feelings, people being offended and outraged or an angry defensive response from the targeted party. In some […]
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Category Archives: aggressiveanger
IT’S NOT FAIR!
At one time or another, we’ve all complained that life isn’t fair. Children do it all the time: Karen, who is older by two years, is allowed to stay up later than her younger siblings. They complain to dad that they’re being treated unjustly, not realizing that at the same age her bedtime was thirty […]
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EXPOSING COMMON MISCONCEPTIONS ABOUT ANGER
I’ve been presenting seminars on understanding and healing anger for 25 years and it never ceases to amaze me how much misinformation is circulating about one of life’s most powerful emotions. Lack of accurate facts and techniques can have serious repercussions in every aspect of life from relationships to health to joy and happiness. Consider […]
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WHAT TO DO WHEN CONFLICT RESOLUTION FAILS
Wouldn’t life be wonderful if every time we disagreed with someone we could find a perfect solution that would satisfy each party and put the issue to rest once and for all? So often when a conflict arises, we spend an enormous amount of time and energy debating it, trying to prove our position, pointing […]
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ROAD RAGE: A MATTER OF LIFE OR DEATH
Recently, I’ve been driving into NY City to do mediations for a large clothing manufacture on Madison Ave. I used to teach classes at the Learning Annex and some of my son’s doctor’s were in the city as well. However, it’s been awhile and as incomprehensible as it may sound, NY has become even more […]
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HA-HA SORB APPROACH TO BULLIES
People don’t typically want to interact with those they consider to be bullies or tyrants. Yet contrary to popular belief, bullies are not bad people. It’s their behaviors that are appalling. They act out their pain, loneliness, insecurities, and so on in the most offensive and unkind ways. But as I’ve stated repeatedly, behavior is […]
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MAD, SAD, OR GLAD: THE OPTIONS
We all get angry from time-to-time. Sometimes our anger is righteous, that is to say it is justifiable and other times without valid cause. For instance, imagine your child is late returning from an evening basketball game. He does not call to let you know that the game went into overtime. You’re unable to reach […]
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14 Common Reasons We Get Angry and Their Solutions
While conducting research for today’s show, I found fourteen of the most common reasons people get angry. Keep in mind, these are only the triggers. Outside circumstances are never the actual cause. There are three root causes – hurt, fear, and frustration – that prompt anger in us. Let’s examine some of the most frequent […]
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The Illusion of Anger
I sent out an email about my upcoming show, The Illusion of Anger, and was met with an angry response. “Anger is NOT an illusion! People die from anger!” he wrote. I am well aware of that. However, that is not the illusion I’m speaking of. According to Webster’s dictionary, anger is a feeling of […]
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Your Two Greatest Weapons Against Anger
We all get angry. Lord knows, I’ve had my share of inappropriate tirades and years of pent-up anger as well. While anger is a vital part of the human experience, I’m not pleased with the times I’m blown things out of proportion, allowed others to push my buttons and elicit an unsightly response, silently seethe […]
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