We’re all influenced by those around us and by what is occurring in our lives. Something as simple as the weather can affect how we feel. A cloudy, rainy day can take an otherwise cheerful person and transform them into a gloomy Gus of sorts. Being stuck in traffic can alter one’s mood from that […]
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Category Archives: conflictmanagement
Anger and the 2 “F” Words
No, I’m not speaking about that “F” word. I’m going to address two different words beginning with the letter “f” and how they influence the decisions we make, our responses in any given situation, and how the outcome adds to or subtracts from our happiness and/or contributes to our anger. Those two words are “feelings” […]
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You Can’t Ruin My Day
Have you ever gotten out of bed in the morning declaring that today was going to be a great day? And before your first cup of coffee, something happened that completely ruined everything? Perhaps your child woke up sick or the car wouldn’t start or your boss calls you to let you know that you’ll […]
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Anger: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly
As a child I was taught that anger was a bad emotion but I’ve have since come to understand that there are no bad feelings. All emotions have purpose and value as they teach us about ourselves based on how we react to external events. We assign value to each depending on how people act […]
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“AR You Ready to Reduce Anger in Your Relationships?”
Relationships are the most challenging aspect of life whether personal, professional, casual or intimate. Even with those we love deeply, such as family members, getting along can prove challenging. Consider this: more than half of all American families are estranged from one another due in part to unresolved differences. Yet it is not imperative that […]
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Anger: Incident or Issue?
In the years that I facilitated my support group for estranged families, I primarily worked with older parents whose adult children had severed their relationship with them. The parents were perplexed: “I was a good parent”, they declared. “I gave my children the best of everything. There is no reason why they should be punishing […]
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Lose Your Temper For Good!
I’ve had many clients over the years request my help in teaching them how to control their tempers. “I lose my temper and afterwards feel terrible. I don’t want to do this anymore. I need to learn how to control my temper.” My response to them is this, “If you lose your keys you seek […]
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14 Common Reasons We Get Angry and Their Solutions
While conducting research for today’s show, I found fourteen of the most common reasons people get angry. Keep in mind, these are only the triggers. Outside circumstances are never the actual cause. There are three root causes – hurt, fear, and frustration – that prompt anger in us. Let’s examine some of the most frequent […]
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Winning Arguments Through Non-Resistance
When disagreements arise there is always the possibility that they will escalate into an argument or fight. The very nature of dissension triggers feelings of uneasiness in the average person. Most of us struggle with some degree of insecurity. Contradictory ideas, needs, beliefs, ways of doing things, or opinions challenge us and may threaten our […]
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Addressing the Primary Sources of Conflict
Conflict is a normal, healthy, and useful part of life. At its simplest, it means there is a disagreement or difference of opinion between two or more individuals. In life we can identify two types of conflict: internal and external. Internal conflict, the root issue causing discomfort and the basis which leads to one outwardly […]
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