While conducting research for today’s show, I found fourteen of the most common reasons people get angry. Keep in mind, these are only the triggers. Outside circumstances are never the actual cause. There are three root causes – hurt, fear, and frustration – that prompt anger in us. Let’s examine some of the most frequent […]
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Category Archives: conflictresolution
Winning Arguments Through Non-Resistance
When disagreements arise there is always the possibility that they will escalate into an argument or fight. The very nature of dissension triggers feelings of uneasiness in the average person. Most of us struggle with some degree of insecurity. Contradictory ideas, needs, beliefs, ways of doing things, or opinions challenge us and may threaten our […]
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3 Must Have’s That Resolve Conflict
Conflict is a natural and even healthy aspect of life. It enables us to see another perspective of an issue, to creatively discuss and seek solutions to our differences, to learn to be open-minded and flexible, to practice the fine art of compromise or in some instances to graciously concede to the other party’s wishes. […]
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Why People Don’t Get Along
Why is it so difficult for us to get along with one another? After all, we all have the same basic needs in life. We all want to be valued, to be acknowledged for the good that we do, to be treated fairly and given sufficient opportunities in life; we all want to be accepted […]
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“S~T~A” Away From Anger
I love creating simple strategies individuals can use to experience less anger or stress in their lives, to improve their communications skills, resolve conflicts easier or create inner peace. From the SWaT Strategy* to TECO Magic*, The Great Duck and Dishtowel Debate* or the Seven C’s of Conflict Resolution, I find that the simpler it […]
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Using Emotions As Tools
Very often people query me as to whether or not anger is a bad emotion to which I reply “No.” All emotions have purpose and value. None are good or bad. They simply are. It is how we utilize them, our actions, that determines their positive or negative value. Emotions are messengers that help us […]
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Mediation With a Twist
We all have the opportunity to be mediators at various times in our lives. Two family members are arguing and cannot come to a resolution about the issue in dispute. We intervene and lend a helping hand. Perhaps an objective third part can offer some insights or suggestions that have alluded both parties. Where there […]
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UFO Method to Eliminate Arguing
We all argue. Well, for sure we all disagree. Arguing is an option. We can peacefully debate opposite sides of a topic and without having it escalate to anger, shouting, name-calling, and hurt feelings. Yet oftentimes it does. When people do not feel as though they are being heard or understood they become upset. They […]
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Your Two Greatest Weapons Against Anger
We all get angry. Lord knows, I’ve had my share of inappropriate tirades and years of pent-up anger as well. While anger is a vital part of the human experience, I’m not pleased with the times I’m blown things out of proportion, allowed others to push my buttons and elicit an unsightly response, silently seethe […]
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7 Steps to Regret Free Decisions
We’re all faced with making hundreds if not thousands of decisions each day. From choosing the time I get up to what I want to wear, whether I should have breakfast or not, how I’m going to spend my day, or what my attitude will look like – we make choices from morning till night […]
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