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An Unsuspecting Place

I was raised in a home in which the Bible was read and spoken about all the time. My Dad loved to talk. He was an eloquent speaker; he was a poet, a writer, an account, and a business man. I never developed that love for God’s Word. Even though my Dad was very talented – his aunt deemed as a ‘child prodigy – he lacked one important thing: compassion. It was my Daddy’s lack of compassion towards me that caused my heart to harden towards God’s word. I can hear my Daddy saying to my brother, “Son, the Bible is the most important book in the world. You need to read your scriptures.” Daddy never stopped to make it relevant to me, so I never stopped to listen.

As I grew older and was on my way off to college, the hostility between my Daddy and I grew stronger. However, I desperately wanted this father-daughter relationship, but my feelings and emotions are always trivialized. As a result, my heart grew cold and distant; I wanted to get as far as I could away from my Dad because the emotional wound was too much for me to handle.

When I graduated from college, I began my career as a high school math teacher in Fort Worth, Texas. Unfortunately, I had managed to accumulate thousands of dollars to debt. Every man I met and attempted to date led to a dead end. My Dad and I were still on a non-talking basis. What am I to do? Every woman I asked about finding a husband gave bad advice. I thought to myself, “Now how is it my Mom and my sister who are married, and can’t tell me what to look for a man?”

My brother and I did not have a good relationship at this time. I decided to tell him about the guy I was dating. I figured what could it hurt, what he had to say could be no worse than the advice I had previously received. My brother, Justin, began to explain to me ‘the game’ men play, and that everything they said was a “script.” When I first heard this, I thought to myself, “Man, I don’t believe this. I’m going to try this out.” When I tell you everything Justin said was the truth, it was line by line. I was amazed! Moreover, my younger brother just earned my respect.

No one ever really took the time to listen, so I talked his ear off. I would talk for hours at a time, and he would patiently listen, without judgment or criticism. This allowed me to be open and honest about things I would not normally share. Over time, Justin would give these analogies that so relevant to my life, that I had no choice but to confess my guilt. This went on for several years. As time went by, my heart began to soften because I was getting a better understanding about my Daddy. How could we live in the same house, with the same parents, and have two completely different experiences with our Dad?
Looking back on the tumultuous relationship with my Daddy, Jesus used my younger brother to humble me, bring me to a point of accepting and receiving the Word. The Lord showed me my errors in my ways of thinking, and built a relationship with my brother and Daddy that I never had before in my life! This was the Master Builder at work, as Jesus molded and transformed my heart, and my Daddy’s heart so one day we could be reunited.

In July 2011, I went home to go visit my Dad. It was the first time Daddy was actually excited to see me. I couldn’t believe he was excited about me! I will never forget when he said to me, “I hope I didn’t hurt your feelings by not eating your turkey meatloaf.” It caught me by surprise that he was so thoughtful and considerate of my feelings. Before I left, he hugged me and told me he loved me. Three months later, he died. The Mighty Hand of God was working out the crossed lines of communication so death and saying good-bye would not be bitter sweet. The Lord Jesus used my younger brother to teach me humility, forgiveness, and compassion.

Your Right To Personal Boundaries

According to Wikipedia personal boundaries are: guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits”. I think this is a good definition and just wondering how are your personal boundaries? At times we can all do a little work on this so let’s set up some guidelines that might help:

  • You have a right a have personal boundaries and with this recognition opens the door to defining yourself and what is acceptable to you and what is not. How do you let others treat you? Do you set limits to what is acceptable and what is not? This is tied in to your self approval and self worth. If you don’t have healthy boundaries you tend to let others define you rather than defining yourself. To resolve this set clear boundaries for yourself and don’t be afraid to enforce them. For instance if you have repeatedly told someone that after 10 PM you don’t take phone calls unless it is an emergency and this person constantly comes up with some drama or another after that time be ready to enforce that rule, use caller ID and don’t take the call.
  • The word NO is a complete sentence. When someone asks you to do something you can simply say no without have to defend your answer. If you tend to be someone who has a hard time saying no and than regretting your YES afterwards it may take some practice but it is well within your right to “Just Say No!”
  • Other people’s needs are not more important than yours. When we give..give..give till it hurts it usually does. We have to remember to refill our energetic well and take care of our own needs so we will have what it takes to take care of other’s. Sometimes there are people in our lives who demand we take care of their needs before our own. If this is a constant, boundaries are essential. Personally I find these people to be full of drama and always believe what they need is more important than anything else. Learn to discern this behavior and act accordingly. If it is a friend frank commuication can help. With a family member set your limits in your mind and enforce them. Usually with these dramarama (a term I have coined) individuals no matter what you do it is not enough so keep that in mind when you get caught up in the people pleasing cycle.
  • Trust yourself…Believe in yourself and know that when you do what is best for you, you are doing what is best for everyone in your life. You are here to enjoy your life and being a good helpful person is what we are taught to be. Of course that is what we all strive to be but putting yourself first is not selfish it is self loving and keeping healthy boundaries to protect yourself is the first step in a wonderful romance with YOU!

Tuesday, April 4 7:00 PM we will discuss this on The Night Shift with Susan Dintino. I will be doing mini readings as well.

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How Networking Can Help You Build a Stronger Business

 Dishing With Judith

Social media is a wonderful thing, it has opened new doors, expanded our global reach, and boosted our potential for creating positive change in the world to an amazing level. But, in my opinion, the one thing it can’t do is replace face-to-face interactions. According to the experts at HubSpot, “there isn’t a single technology that will replace the power of in-person relationship building.”

When researching this, I found an amazing infographic along with excerpts from Richard Branson’s blog that supports the importance of personal connections even more. (You can check it out HERE). While acknowledging the power and prevalence of digital communications and online social media, research shows that face-to-face conversations tend to be more positive, and perceived as more credible, than online conversations. Our body language, the inflection (or way we speak), is as important to the bottom line of the conversation as the actual words we use.

Bottom line, in-person conversations and communications build strong, better, relationships.

My good friend and networking expert Toni Caruso agrees. As the managing director of the eWomen Network in Calabasas, CA, and a networking and etiquette expert who is called on to speak and teach about just these subjects, she said she has seen a lot of “dos and don’ts” when it comes to relationship and business networking, such as:

Don’t think having a glass of wine and talking about family is networking for your business. There’s nothing wrong with this, but you’re creating personal relationships (friendships), instead of mutually beneficial business ones.

Do learn to make valuable business connections by asking the right questions and learning how to “Give” instead of “Sell” in your conversations. I notice that in social media and many in-person networking organizations it’s become no longer about how can I help you, but more about what you can do for me. That’s the wrong approach, what you should be asking is “How can I help you, what are you all about?”

I couldn’t agree more. Learning to navigate the social aspects of life will benefit you in any type of business, no matter what you decide to do. For myself, as I transitioned from building one business to the next, it was the connections I made and the professional relationships I built that carried me through and helped me find success each and every time.

To learn more about how to walk into a room, ask the right questions, and create connections that benefit everyone involved, check out my Dishing with Judith podcast featuring Toni Caruso by clicking HERE.

Do you have a networking strategy that works for you? A question that opens people up and helps to create immediate connections and in-depth conversations. I invite you to leave a comment here on the blog and share. Or send me an email at judith@judithmancini.com, I’d love to dish with you about it!

~ Judith

Judith Mancini is producer and host of “Dishing with Judith,” her popular radio talk show on Women 4 Women Radio (w4wn.com) and iHeartRadio.com. Broadcast live in-studio from Burbank, California, Mancini’s guests  include celebrities, musicians, artists, authors and anyone with powerful knowledge or a spicy story.  Her co-host, Noelle, a fashion designer/blogger, social media expert and founder/CEO of Digital Media Strategy offers weekly “fashion finds” and lively commentary on all the new social trends.

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