In 1995, author, psychologist, and science journalist, Daniel Goleman, wrote a book entitled, Emotional Intelligence which made its way to The New York Times bestseller list for a year-and-a-half. It was a relatively new concept designed to assist companies in determining which characteristics defined leadership qualities in their employees. Certainly one’s level of intelligence, (IQ), […]
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Category Archives: anger
Anger: Incident or Issue?
In the years that I facilitated my support group for estranged families, I primarily worked with older parents whose adult children had severed their relationship with them. The parents were perplexed: “I was a good parent”, they declared. “I gave my children the best of everything. There is no reason why they should be punishing […]
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Lose Your Temper For Good!
I’ve had many clients over the years request my help in teaching them how to control their tempers. “I lose my temper and afterwards feel terrible. I don’t want to do this anymore. I need to learn how to control my temper.” My response to them is this, “If you lose your keys you seek […]
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Anger and Disease: the Connection and Remedies
There is no denying that the mind, body, and spirit are all interconnected. What impacts one affects all others. While the general public has become more health conscious in terms of eating healthier, dropping those unnecessary pounds, and exercising more, what often gets overlooked – that continues to impact our health – are our emotional […]
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14 Common Reasons We Get Angry and Their Solutions
While conducting research for today’s show, I found fourteen of the most common reasons people get angry. Keep in mind, these are only the triggers. Outside circumstances are never the actual cause. There are three root causes – hurt, fear, and frustration – that prompt anger in us. Let’s examine some of the most frequent […]
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Winning Arguments Through Non-Resistance
When disagreements arise there is always the possibility that they will escalate into an argument or fight. The very nature of dissension triggers feelings of uneasiness in the average person. Most of us struggle with some degree of insecurity. Contradictory ideas, needs, beliefs, ways of doing things, or opinions challenge us and may threaten our […]
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3 R’s That Mend Broken Relationships
Relationships can be challenging, each with its own unique set of issues. Whether on the job with co workers who can at times be condescending, to social encounters with individuals who are overly critical, to our most personal relationships with family members who deeply offend us with hurtful words – on every level our relationships […]
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D~U~C~A~P Method of Dealing With a Difficult Person
We could all use a few suggestions for dealing with those difficult coworkers, obnoxious family members, or challenging neighbors that find their way into our lives. Some really know how to push our buttons and bring out the worst in us; others are stubborn or opinionated; still others can be rude, disrespectful, or argumentative. Whatever […]
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More Advantageous Than Anger
Anger is a very powerful emotion which many conclude is a bad feeling. Whether one chooses to use it in a constructive manner or in a hostile way, it carries a lot of punch (figuratively speaking, of course). As you become angry your body’s muscles tense up. Inside your brain, neurotransmitter chemicals are released, your […]
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Addressing the Primary Sources of Conflict
Conflict is a normal, healthy, and useful part of life. At its simplest, it means there is a disagreement or difference of opinion between two or more individuals. In life we can identify two types of conflict: internal and external. Internal conflict, the root issue causing discomfort and the basis which leads to one outwardly […]
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