I abhor rumors and gossip. They’re petty, destructive, and hateful. Yet, truth-be-told, I have engaged in gossip from time-to-time. I’m not proud of it, just honest. I could try to justify it by saying that I’ve only done so out of concern for others. Sometimes the sharing of information about another person can genuinely be […]
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Category Archives: conflict resolution
To Fight or Not to Fight? That is the Question
Do you enjoy a good fight? I don’t but I know some people who do. Regardless of who we are interacting with, differences of opinion, issues , and conflict will arise periodically. Some approach arguments with zest, others with great trepidation, and some avoid them at all costs. There are times when it is wise […]
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Seven Communication Strategies to Reduce Anger and Conflict
Why is it so hard to talk to one another? Unless you’re a recluse, it’s something we all do every day. Perhaps because I’m a motivational speaker, author, and radio host I can talk ad infinitum. I actually find it enjoyable and relatively easy. Yet there is a significant difference between talking and communicating: talking […]
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(Really Smart) Advice About Anger
One of my clients complained that her boyfriend had an annoying habit of constantly chewing gum. It drove her crazy! “Aside from that, he’s perfect.” she exclaimed. “But how do I get him to stop? He knows it bugs me yet he continues to do it. He says he’s not doing anything wrong and then […]
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Five Tips to Mediate a Dispute
I enjoy a good robust debate. I find it can be very stimulating and present an opportunity for me to learn something new. In every facet of life, we encounter individuals with whom we have disagreements. Recently, a woman in her forties came into my office seeking suggestions as to how she could best deal […]
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One Key Eliminates Fighting Forever
Conflict and fighting are not synonymous. Although they very often go hand-in-hand, disagreements need not end up as arguments, fights, or physical altercations. A conflict is simply two forces in opposition: a husband and wife disagree on where to spend their vacation; you support the Republican party, your friend is a staunch Democrat; best friends […]
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The “SO – What” Method: Six Steps to Resolving Conflict
Conflict: two forces in opposition. Resolution: the process of finding a mutually satisfying solution. There’s nothing threatening here yet for many they’d rather have a root canal rather than try to resolve a dispute. They either seek a quick departure or prepare themselves for an ugly battle. But conflict can be a very beneficial and […]
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Four Keys to Overcoming Anger
I facilitated an anger management support group for several years. One woman began attending shortly after our first meeting. Her name was Joan. Joan’s marriage of thirty plus years was in trouble. Admitting she had a bad temper, her husband recently filed for divorce. She was devastated. “I don’t want to lose him,” she said, […]
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Assertive Anger: Tough With a Twist
Sixteen years ago, I moved to a quiet dead-end street. Imagine my dismay when I discovered that I lived near a teenage heavy metal band! As day turned to evening, my silent haven was interrupted by the sound of innocent drums and guitars being tortured! . I was angry. I phoned the police to see […]
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