I’m reasonably confident in saying that there’s not a person on this planet who has not felt unfairly judged at some point. While we may feel justified in imposing verdicts on one another, when we are on the receiving end the feeling can be quite hurtful. It is not uncommon to react with anger, defensiveness, […]
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Category Archives: #angermanagement
Healing Anger Natur-ally
Several years ago, I had a client whose nine-year old son had anger issues. His doctor diagnosed him with ADD and suggested medication to quell his angry outbursts. “What do you think?” the mother inquired of me. Not an advocate of prescription medications (with the exception of the most extreme cases), I told her honestly […]
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Alternative Healing Modalities for Anger
When I was a child, my mom always utilized natural methods for healing. Fevers were treated with cold compresses to the forehead, sucking on frozen juice pops, and cool baths. Burns were treated with ice, colds with chicken soup. Rarely was medication given to restore health. Even when we are emotionally unwell, we can utilize […]
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Debunking Six Common Myths About Anger
I’ve been presenting seminars on healing anger for twenty years and it never ceases to amaze me how much misinformation is circulating about one of life’s most powerful emotion. I’ve decided it is time to debunk some of the most common myths. So without further ado, let me begin with… Myth #1. Anger is a […]
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Redefining Victimization – A New Approach
“I’m a victim of domestic violence.” That’s one phrase you’ll never hear emanating from my mouth. Even though I spent three years engaged to marry someone who verbally and physically abused me, I never once entertained the thought of myself as a victim. Perhaps it’s because I define a victim as one without power. True, […]
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Kids + Divorce + Blended Families = Anger
Divorce – it’s a word that makes me cringe every time I hear it. Mine was thirty-two years ago (not of my choosing) and was one of the most painful periods of my life. Two people brought together in love take a sacred vow to love, honor, and cherish one another for eternity. No one […]
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Weak, Meek or Strong: a Biblical Perspective on Anger
The first verse of the Beatitudes in the Bible says, “Blessed are the meek for they shall inherit the Earth.” Like many others, I always had difficulty with the term meek. To me, it was synonymous with being weak. And yet nothing could be farther from the truth. The word meek comes from the Greek […]
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13 Quick Questions for Clarifying Anger
Do you ever wonder why it’s so hard to break a habit? Whether it’s biting your fingernails, the way you speak, or your reaction to drivers who cut you off on the highway, old habits die hard. The reason being is that behaviors, when repeated frequently enough, become habitual. We no longer consciously think about […]
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You Can Prevent Bad Things From Happening to You
In 1981, the book, When Bad Things Happen to Good People, was released. It chronicled Rabbi Harold Kushner’s journey of doubt and fear that arose when his three-year old son was diagnosed with a degenerative disease that would dramatically reduce the length of his life. The following year, my marriage to my high school sweetheart […]
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Joe Frasier’s Got Nothing On Me (Reactive Anger)
I was an instructor at the Learning Annex in NY City for many years. Classes ended at 9 pm and the ride home was a long one. One evening, after teaching an anger management course for three hours, I pulled into my driveway around 11 pm, exhausted and anxious to crawl into bed. I pulled […]
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