Category Archives: assertive

One of my clients complained that her boyfriend had an annoying habit of constantly chewing gum. It drove her crazy! “Aside from that, he’s perfect.” she exclaimed. “But how do I get him to stop? He knows it bugs me yet he continues to do it. He says he’s not doing anything wrong and then […]

I enjoy a good robust debate. I find it can be very stimulating and present an opportunity for me to learn something new. In every facet of life, we encounter individuals with whom we have disagreements. Recently, a woman in her forties came into my office seeking suggestions as to how she could best deal […]

Conflict and fighting are not synonymous. Although they very often go hand-in-hand, disagreements need not end up as arguments, fights, or physical altercations. A conflict is simply two forces in opposition: a husband and wife disagree on where to spend their vacation; you support the Republican party, your friend is a staunch Democrat; best friends […]

Conflict: two forces in opposition. Resolution: the process of finding a mutually satisfying solution. There’s nothing threatening here yet for many they’d rather have a root canal rather than try to resolve a dispute. They either seek a quick departure or prepare themselves for an ugly battle. But conflict can be a very beneficial and […]

I facilitated an anger management support group for several years. One woman began attending shortly after our first meeting. Her name was Joan. Joan’s marriage of thirty plus years was in trouble. Admitting she had a bad temper, her husband recently filed for divorce. She was devastated. “I don’t want to lose him,” she said, […]

Sixteen years ago, I moved to a quiet dead-end street. Imagine my dismay when I discovered that I lived near a teenage heavy metal band! As day turned to evening, my silent haven was interrupted by the sound of innocent drums and guitars being tortured! . I was angry. I phoned the police to see […]