They all complained about the daily gossip that ran rampant among them. Every one participated in it yet ironically no one could understand why they would be targeted. In the fifteen years I worked at the battered women’s shelter, both staff and residents criticize those who engaged in rumors while also being the first to […]
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Category Archives: conflict
To Fight or Not to Fight? That is the Question
Do you enjoy a good fight? I don’t but I know some people who do. Regardless of who we are interacting with, differences of opinion, issues , and conflict will arise periodically. Some approach arguments with zest, others with great trepidation, and some avoid them at all costs. There are times when it is wise […]
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Anger in the Workplace
“One of my coworkers is so annoying! She’s always making personal calls when she’s supposed to be working. Then when she can’t finish her work she asks me for help!” Recently, one of my clients (a mechanic) complained about missing tools. “We are all responsible for our own tools. I keep mine on my workbench […]
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Adult Temper Tantrums: the Why’s and What’s
Each one of my children threw one temper tantrum in their lives. As with all toddlers, overwhelming frustration can lead to a meltdown of epic proportions. I was not the kind of mother who would wait patiently until them calmed down. Not me! I walked right up to them, grabbed their shoulders, put my face […]
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How to Always Be Right and Win an Argument Every Time
Disagreements – those annoying irritations that throw a monkey wrench into our otherwise blissful lives and disrupt any possible chances we have of experiencing serenity and joy. Augh! “Why can’t people simply agree with me, even if they don’t, and just allow us to coexist peacefully? But, no – regardless of how right I am […]
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Seven Communication Strategies to Reduce Anger and Conflict
Why is it so hard to talk to one another? Unless you’re a recluse, it’s something we all do every day. Perhaps because I’m a motivational speaker, author, and radio host I can talk ad infinitum. I actually find it enjoyable and relatively easy. Yet there is a significant difference between talking and communicating: talking […]
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(Really Smart) Advice About Anger
One of my clients complained that her boyfriend had an annoying habit of constantly chewing gum. It drove her crazy! “Aside from that, he’s perfect.” she exclaimed. “But how do I get him to stop? He knows it bugs me yet he continues to do it. He says he’s not doing anything wrong and then […]
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Five Tips to Mediate a Dispute
I enjoy a good robust debate. I find it can be very stimulating and present an opportunity for me to learn something new. In every facet of life, we encounter individuals with whom we have disagreements. Recently, a woman in her forties came into my office seeking suggestions as to how she could best deal […]
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One Key Eliminates Fighting Forever
Conflict and fighting are not synonymous. Although they very often go hand-in-hand, disagreements need not end up as arguments, fights, or physical altercations. A conflict is simply two forces in opposition: a husband and wife disagree on where to spend their vacation; you support the Republican party, your friend is a staunch Democrat; best friends […]
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The “SO – What” Method: Six Steps to Resolving Conflict
Conflict: two forces in opposition. Resolution: the process of finding a mutually satisfying solution. There’s nothing threatening here yet for many they’d rather have a root canal rather than try to resolve a dispute. They either seek a quick departure or prepare themselves for an ugly battle. But conflict can be a very beneficial and […]
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