People often ask me if they should say something to someone or make a particular life decision. My response to them is, “Why would you and how are you planning to?” Motive (intent) is a key factor in determining the validity of any decision. “No one likes my sister-in-law and I’m going to tell her.” […]
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Category Archives: feelings
The New Whisper
First it was Dan “Buck” Brannaman, the horse whisperer; then Cesar Millan who whispered to dogs. A Google search revealed there are whisperers for cats, babies, donkeys, skunks, reptiles and (no joke) one for serial killers. In this week’s edition of the Daily Record, a unique category emerged when a gentleman named Jim Conroy referred […]
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Disappropriate and Distractive Anger:When Emotion Outweighs Event
We’ve all experienced moments when we, or someone around us, over reacts to an incident. Your husband forgets to pick up the dry cleaning on his way home from work and you blow up at him. You neglect to use your turn signal when exiting the highway and the driver behind you blasts his horn […]
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I Didn’t Order That!
I admire women who return to school in midlife. Mothers, wives and business women who volunteer and care for their elderly parents, their days are already filled to capacity, their lives overflowing with responsibilities. Yet they seek out the best colleges with the most stringent requirements and toughest courses knowing that that is what it […]
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Sticks and Stones: Disarming Hurtful Words
I used to pride myself on being sensitive. The problem was I was easily hurt by the things other people said to me. I lived in a chronic state of pain which lead to a lifetime of unhappiness and low self-esteem. But the alternative (being cold and aloof) was less appealing so I resigned myself […]
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What Makes (Mike) Rice Boil? A Look at Aggressive Behavior
Aggressive behavior – many believe it is a sign of power, self-confidence, and courage. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Last week the country witnessed the termination of Rutgers University head basketball coach, Mike Rice. Video surfaced of his mean-spirited treatment of his players during practice. From name-calling to shoving, grabbing to gay slurs, […]
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KISS Away Anger
My guest today, Dr. Erica Kosal, has been dealing with the devastating illness of her husband, Jim, for the past five years. Understandably, she has experienced a wide range of emotions including stress and anger. But this college professor and mother of two refused to allow those feelings to get the better of her. Instead, […]
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Six Surefire Ways to Offend Someone
A recent email announcement sent to my entire database promoting my latest book, The Great Truth: Shattering Life’s Most Insidious Lies That Sabotage Your Happiness Along With the Revelation of Life’s Sole Purpose, prompted two angry responses. In both cases, the recipients took offense to my alleged claim that I have somehow miraculously uncovered a […]
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Her Way or the Highway
For more than a month I posted her picture on my social media sites. “Please open your heart and adopt ‘Odette’. She is a precious yorkie/poodle mix rescued from a puppy mill.” Her photo didn’t do her justice. She sat huddled in the back of her cage at RBARI shelter in Oakland, her tortured life […]
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I Don’t Do Ugly
She’s strikingly beautiful: tall, large oval-shaped eyes, full lips, dark flowing hair. Her exotic look could land her on the cover of any fashion magazine. Her personality perfectly suits her ample frame. She’s outgoing and bubbly, intense and opinionated and I’ve enjoyed the two years she’s spend in my anger management group. She is well-known […]
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