Ducks, dishtowels, and doorbells: one wouldn’t think they’re connected to anger in any way. Cake, on the other hand, is a no-brainer: when upset, eat some. Plain and simple. No one can be angry when stuffing their mouths with a confectionary delight topped with butter cream icing and sugar roses. Yum! As tempting as it […]
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Category Archives: God
Why Forgiveness is Obsolete
My mother has always been an advocate of forgiveness. When I was a child she taught me early on to let go of being angry with people. If a friend hurt me she suggested that perhaps they didn’t realize what they had done. If it was a family member, well, families don’t hold grudges. And […]
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Finding Joy in Your Darkest Moments
When I was fourteen, my godparents gave birth to a baby boy after twenty years of marriage. The most joyful day of their lives was shattered by the devastating news that their son had Down’s Syndrome. Fifty years ago Downs was a death sentence and Robert was no exception. Three weeks later they buried their […]
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How to Stop People From Annoying You
They’re like mosquitoes on a hot summer night – those irritating and annoying people. They can be found anywhere from our families or coworkers to drivers on the roadways to complete strangers we encounter while on vacation. Their quirky behaviors and annoying habits can ruin our day. Other than blow up, walk away, or simply […]
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It’s Not Fair!
At one time or another, we’ve all complained that life isn’t fair. Children do it all the time: Karen, who is older by two years, is allowed to stay up later than her younger siblings. They complain to dad that they’re being treated unjustly, not realizing that at the same age her bedtime was thirty […]
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Who Needs Anger?
Everyone – we all need anger. The most simple basic definition of anger is that it’s an indication that we have unmet needs that have to be addressed, a sign that something is lacking in our lives that we want to satisfy. As with all emotions, anger is normal, useful, healthy, and necessary. Emotions are […]
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You Can Be Angry or Grateful But You Can’t Be Both
There is a over abundance of books, articles, and blogs written on the subject of gratitude but did you know that being grateful is actually an antidote to anger? Gratitude is a conscious state of appreciation, the ability to feel good in the midst of difficulties and disappointments, and maintaining a positive mind frame even […]
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Depression and Global Consciousness – A Very Unique Perspective
I recently read an article that described depression as “a psychological reaction to the violent deformities of the modern world.” I found that statement deeply provocative and began to ponder it’s meaning. “Anger turned inward” doesn’t satisfy me anymore. I do not subscribe to the belief that depression is a disease nor am I of […]
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Redefining Victimization – A New Approach
“I’m a victim of domestic violence.” That’s one phrase you’ll never hear emanating from my mouth. Even though I spent three years engaged to marry someone who verbally and physically abused me, I never once entertained the thought of myself as a victim. Perhaps it’s because I define a victim as one without power. True, […]
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Forgiveness and Inner Peace – the Connection
Forgiveness: so many misconceptions and misunderstandings; so many who believe forgiveness is reserved for a chosen few or must be preceded with an apology. Still others feel at times that it is impossible or worse, that there are those not deserving of its graces. And so they suffer…all of them, when healing is clearly within […]
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