Your anger can actually benefit me. That sounds a bit ludicrous, wouldn’t you agree? Anger hurts the one experiencing it but how can it possibly work to my advantage? If you become angry with me, I might feel upset, disrespected, scared, or angry in return. On a deeper level those emotions can prove to be […]
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Category Archives: #angermanagement
6 Steps to Rebuilding a Broken Trust
Have you ever disappointed someone or broken a promise? Was the incident serious enough to ultimately compromise the trust between you? We all have been untrustworthy at some point. That doesn’t mean that we’re bad or selfish. Sometimes, even under the best of circumstances, we let people down. We give them information believing it to […]
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Dealing With Insults Effectively
My husband is brutal: he teases and torments me unmercifully. But I’m just as bad. From the moment we wake up until we crawl exhausted into bed at the end of the day, we are constantly harassing one another. In fact, the first words out of his mouth as he opens his eyes at 5 […]
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You’re Right (or not) to Be Angry
Don’t you hate it when someone tells you not to be angry? People seem to think that they know best how we should or shouldn’t feel. I was on the phone recently with a friend who needed to tell me something sensitive and prefaced it with “Now don’t get mad at me for telling you […]
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You Can ‘Thank’ Away Anger
I’m a very polite person. I was taught to always say “please” and “thank you” when I was a child, a practice that has continued throughout my adult life. However, I never realized the latter phrase could be used as a means of eliminating anger. You might think it an odd concept but let me […]
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Diffusing Family Tension
I’ve spent over twenty years working with families as a spiritual life coach. Many of my clients divulge painful or embarrassing situations that their families are struggling with, believing there must be something wrong with them since other families they know appear so well adjusted. I assure them that even in the most seemingly normal […]
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Healing Anger and Abuse With Help From Beyond
I was truly blessed: when my first husband and I married I acquired a second set of parents. I could not have loved “Bob” and “Mary” more and their fondness for me was generously reciprocated. For the eighteen years I was with their son, we were family. However, my husband’s decision to end our marriage […]
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Why Your Body Needs You to Forgive
I’m blessed to have parents who, early-on in life, instilled in me the importance of forgiveness. “They didn’t mean what they said.” “Your friend is probably just having a bad day.” My mom was, and still is, one who always saw the best in people and chose compassion over anger. So it has always felt […]
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Problem Interactions in the Workplace
Most of us work for a living. On or off the job we are bound to encounter a wide range of, shall I say, challenging personalities? Bullies, intimidators, hypocrites, backstabbers, underminers, instigators, complainers, gossips, withholders, and know-it-alls just to name a few. Their presence can be distressing and distractive. Many of us are ill-prepared to […]
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Who Needs Anger?
Everyone – we all need anger. The most simple basic definition of anger is that it’s an indication that we have unmet needs that have to be addressed, a sign that something is lacking in our lives that we want to satisfy. As with all emotions, anger is normal, useful, healthy, and necessary. Emotions are […]
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