Although we often classify a person’s actions as problematic, in truth a person’s conduct is never the real problem. Behavior is nothing more than an outward expression of an internal issue. For example, if an individual is in a bad mood and arguing with those around them, the fighting simply indicates a possible insecurity or […]
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Category Archives: frustration
ALTERNATIVE RESPONSES TO ANGER
Life doesn’t always turn out the way we’d like. When situations take an unfavorable turn, we become upset, frustrated, or angry. When others don’t agree with us, live their life the way we think they should, or act in a manner we find disturbing, anger is a typical response. With the exception a few extreme […]
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The Anger Exchange: Give Up These 7 to Gain This Instead
If you’ve read my book, The Secret Side o f Anger, or attended one of my lectures on the topic, you know that while there are thousands of events that can trigger anger, there are actually only three root causes: hurt, fear, and frustration. In any given circumstance, you can trace anger back to one […]
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“S~T~A” Away From Anger
I love creating simple strategies individuals can use to experience less anger or stress in their lives, to improve their communications skills, resolve conflicts easier or create inner peace. From the SWaT Strategy* to TECO Magic*, The Great Duck and Dishtowel Debate* or the Seven C’s of Conflict Resolution, I find that the simpler it […]
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Using Emotions As Tools
Very often people query me as to whether or not anger is a bad emotion to which I reply “No.” All emotions have purpose and value. None are good or bad. They simply are. It is how we utilize them, our actions, that determines their positive or negative value. Emotions are messengers that help us […]
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Part 2 The Surprising Cause of Stress
I’d be hard-pressed to find anyone who never experiences stress. Most of us become frustrated when things don’t go the way we planned or when others don’t comply with how we want them to be or behave. A sense of losing control triggers feelings of uncertainty within us. Mild anxiety, or sometimes full blown fear, […]
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The Surprising Cause of Stress, Part 1
Today is “tax day”. For millions of American tax payers it is probably their least favorite time of the year, propelling them into a state of duress and anxiety. For a business owner such as myself the task of gathering all of my receipts and itemizing my expenses is time consuming and definitely not on […]
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How to Stop People From Annoying You
They’re like mosquitoes on a hot summer night – those irritating and annoying people. They can be found anywhere from our families or coworkers to drivers on the roadways to complete strangers we encounter while on vacation. Their quirky behaviors and annoying habits can ruin our day. Other than blow up, walk away, or simply […]
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A No-Win Situation: What to Do When You’re Caught in the Middle
We’ve all found ourselves in situations where we feel as though we’re caught between a rock and a hard place. Faced with making a necessary decision, our choices are less than favorable and all options have potentially serious consequences. Your best friend confides that she’s having an affair and begs you not to tell her […]
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I Don’t Do Ugly
She’s strikingly beautiful: tall, large oval-shaped eyes, full lips, dark flowing hair. Her exotic look could land her on the cover of any fashion magazine. Her personality perfectly suits her ample frame. She’s outgoing and bubbly, intense and opinionated and I’ve enjoyed the two years she’s spend in my anger management group. She is well-known […]
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