Category Archives: control

Fear: The Good, the Bad, and the Solutions

I’ve never met anyone who wasn’t afraid of something. I have encountered those who claim they aren’t scared of anything but upon deeper introspection, they realize that there are things in life that they worry about or that concern them. (Both worry and concern are milder forms of fear.) There are some common fears that […]
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Domestic Abuse: What Everyone Needs to Know

Domestic abuse is one of the most serious epidemics modern society faces today. With 1/3 of all women reporting incidences of violence in the home and/or in intimate relationships (this does not reflect the numbers that go unreported nor those of men being abused), no socio-economic group, nationality, gender or age is exempt from experiencing […]
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When Anger Doesn’t Look Like Anger

Not all anger expresses itself as yelling, hitting, cursing, heart pounding, palms sweating or huffing and puffing. Anger comes in many sizes and shapes, one of which I refer to as “camouflage anger”. It’s most common name is passive/aggressive. Well disguised and covert, it can be difficult to detect yet can cause severe damage in […]
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Anger on the Defense

In today’s show, I shared the story of one of my clients at the battered women’s shelter who had an issue with her son and some other children. When some of the mothers accused her child of hitting and cursing at their children, she immediately went on the defensive in an effort to protect him. […]
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How to Heal a Toxic Work Environment

We spend nearly 1/3 of our lives at work. That’s an enormous amount of time and if the work environment is hostile it can be a nightmare. In the case of my client, he received a promotion within the company that created stress and disention among him and his workers. Fearing a blow-up at work, […]
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How to Have a Great President Debate: The Do’s, Do Not’s, and Never’s

Both presidential candidates are facing one of the greatest and most challenging debates in this nation’s history. With the current state of the economy and the passion for or against the current president, each has their work cut out for them. Knowing what to say and how to say it is important. Knowing what to […]
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Oh, Deer!

I was ecstatic when we moved into our home fifteen years ago. Leaving behind a congested suburb for a more rural area abundant with wildlife was a dream-come-true for me. I’ve always felt a special connection with nature and to be living among her finest was heaven! Herds of deer, magnificent black bears, red foxes […]
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Ford Escape, F150 or Bulldozer?

Conflict resolution is not a pleasant experience for most people, in part because we are ill-equip with the proper skills to achieve a relatively satisfying outcome. For many arguing, fighting, and anger are synonymous with conflict. Yet in reality, conflict is nothing more than two forces in opposition with each other – a difference of […]
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How To Keep Your Cool When Nothing Is Going Right

We all have those days, weeks or even months were everything seems to be working against us. At times, it feels as though we must have a huge red bulls-eye painted on our head or a sign pinned to our back saying “kick me”. Hard as we try, nothing is going right. I’ve been having […]
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Sometimes I Just Want to Pull My Hair Out! How to Deal With Frustration

Did you know frustration is all rooted in the need to control? We all want things to be a certain way and as long as they comply, we’re ok. We expect people to be what we think they should be (after, who knows better than I how others should behave?). When they conform to our […]
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